on 9 years my husband 4 years ago got on drugs he stops and starts up he steals lies never there when i need him to be sometimes he gone 2 to 3 days at a time he can’t get a job so many ppl have tould me kick him out he no good that i can do better but i don’t know whats wrong with me i can’t seem to let him go i feel bad that i’m afraid he die out there if i kick him out and when i look at him and he holds me i still love him god i feel like i’m worthless i have 2 kids to think about but yet i can’t seem to throw him out all we do is fight i don’t trust him i’ve become a doormat for him i pray everynight for him to change or for me to grow a backbone i won’t even have money this year to buy my kids gifts i work all the time i’m so tierd please someone help me i feel so lost i want to stop crying for one night i have not stop in 4 years please help
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You have to do what is best for your kids, They need to have a respectable and honest fatherly figure. Think about your kids in fifteen years... where will they be? In jail? Doing Drugs? Disrespecting and walking all over the people who they mean most to? Hun, You have to take care of those kids, And never give up on yourself. You need a man to be there for you and support you... You have to be strong, for the sake of your children and yourself. I imagine you are still young, there are better men out there, and I know it will hurt but you have to go through with it. This is just my opinion, it is entirely your decision. Good Luck hun, really.
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Hi Sweetie, Your story sounds similiar to mine. It is hard to see clearly when you are the one going thru it. As a mother of two myself and all the responsibility put on myself I also had many struggles. I am a Christian woman and found myself not knowing what the right answer was. I looked to the word of God and went thru the steps. First I went to my husband and appealed to him. ( When they are on drugs they are NOT themselves they too are in darkness and cannot see clearly.) Then step two was getting a prayer partner for myself. Then I exposed him to other brothers in Christ who went to him in support. Then I stood up in front of the Church and asked for prayer because I did not want my husband to die in the midst of his chaos. Thank God my husband knew the Lord and the word of God because that is the only thing that got him strong enough to take the steps to recovery. It's a diff. world from them. Somehow they have to get translated from that world into this world. of love hope, truth, integrity, safety and peace. They cannot do it without support, love, understanding and a strong program. The program helps them focus and keeps them hoping everyday that it will be alright and they can do it. Other men who have gone thru it mentoring them helps. I have never used drugs I cannot relate but others can. I believe that without the Lords provision, protection and answered prayer my husband would have lost his life. I did have to kick him out. I did have to cry and stand firm when he was starving and was begging for a sandwich. I became an enabler for two years and after awhile had to realize that he would die in that condition anyway so it would not hurt to help speed up the process of him hitting rock bottom. You can walk in love and be firm. GOD is our utimate strength support and wisdom. Seek God HE IS FAITHFUL!!!!!. I have been married 11 years and been with my husband for a total of 15 1/2 years. I met him this way and he was clean for 10 years and went back because he forsook God and lived his own way. Now God is the his only guarantee for sobriety. Be blessed and know that with God all things are possible.
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I have that same situation expect I am a young daughter of my parents. I am not going to tell the whole situation but I will tell some about of my past. I was mad at my mom for not file a divorce with my dad because he was so physical and mentally abuse and lie and cheat on my mom. I asked my mom "Why didnt you leave dad when you told me that you are going to when I was a kid". You know what her respond was? She said she stay with him because of me. I dont care what anyone say about this what I am going to say. My mom was wrong about that and its not fair for me or other children have to put with it. I am still trying to forgive her today. Becuase of the crap I had seen or put with that I shouldnt have. My mom knew better. Do what the best for your children.