Well, during the summer I met a girl at work that I fell in love with. Shes from another country, and she left at the end of august. I emailed her and told her how I felt at the end of september. She didn’t respond, but it could be because she has two majors and is ALWAYS studying. So, I want to send her another email. Here is what I have, let me know what you think.
“I hope you aren’t mad at me. It hurts that you didn’t respond to my last email. If you don’t respond to this one, I’ll just assume you don’t want anything to do with me.
What I said in my last email was true. I do like you, and I want to be able to talk to you. I miss you so much.
I’ve been hoping and preying that you’ve been busy and haven’t even seen the email, because I can’t bare the thought of you ignoring me. That would hurt too much.
I know I probably won’t see you again, but it would mean the world to me if I heard from you again. I want to know how you’ve been the past couple of months.
If I said anything to upset you in the first email, than i’m very sorry. I never meant to. I just wanted you to know how I feel.
I’m going to be heartbroken if you don’t write back. I’m already heartbroken knowing that I’m never going to see you again.
I just wanted you to know how great it was to have you around this summer.
Well, I’m going to be waiting for your email. I hope to hear from you soon.”
What do you think? Is there anything I should change? Thanks for your time.
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don't start with "i hope you're not mad at me" start with something positive first. Then tell her you are waiting for a reply from her as you would like to know if she's all good. Tell her to reply asap because you're a bit worried, even a short mail will do. And then tell her about your feelings, don't do too much, and don't go with negative sentences. Tell her you guys could stay friends and stuff; and maybe later... otherwise the letter is good. Just don't go with negative sentence because I think that the feeling is better when you read the letter.
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I agree with ak.ewss. You want to remain upbeat and freindly and sound more like you are concerned about her well being rather than whether she is angry. If you have a good relationship, then you do not need to fear her silence. Like you said, she may be crazy busy. And.. if she did not get the first message, then she would really wonder what was wrong....
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The tone does sound a bit desperate. Just establish a dialogue - ask her how she's been, mention what you've been up to, etc. Have a conversation. Try to find some common-ground subjects you can discuss or some sort of game you can play together. Talk to her, don't plead with her. If you can at least treat her as a friend and speak with her often, normally, as friends do, then you'll get to know each other much better, and you may have a chance.
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“Hey there! I sent you an e-mail, but I'm sending this just in case you didn't get it. If you're ignore them... well then, I'll stop sending them after this. What I said in my last email was true. I do like you, and I want to be able to talk to you. I miss you so much. I’m sure you've been busy with all your work with (REMIND HER HERE THAT YOU REMEMBER DETAILS ABOUT HER LIFE BY MENTIONING HER TWO MAJORS, ETC) I know I probably won’t see you again, but it would mean the world to me if I heard from you again. I want to know how you’ve been the past couple of months. I hope I haven't upset you, if I have then I didn't mean to. I never meant to. I just wanted you to know how I feel. It's heartbreaking knowing that I might never see you again. But hey, it's a small world, and you never know what could happen, right? So I hope that we meet again some day and have more great times. I just wanted you to know how great it was to have you around this summer. Well, I’m going to be waiting for your email. I hope to hear from you soon, and I hope you're well!” This is just my take on how you could make the tone lighter and less desperate. I know it will suck if she doesn't write back, and you probably WILL be heartbroken for awhile... we've all been there. But this way you can say that you've tried... and you won't scare her off. If you've already sent it, then good luck, and try to keep yourself busy and not think about her too much!
