we were great and inseperable before but now shes pulled away and doesnt respond to calls, texts, and doesnt talk to me a lot in general at school. When we’re alone we’re pretty good and things go back to how they were but when we’re around other people its like i take second or third seat..i dont want to hold on too tight because that might push her away but i dont want to be totally callous to how shes acting and have her think i dont care about the friendship. I know i should try to get more friends but i tell or used to, tell her everything and know that we dont talk as much i feel like a whole lot of emotions are just bottled up inside. I cant talk to my other friends because ive tried and they just dont get it. What should i do?
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hii!! jst a question how old are use coz it might be jst hormones dnt worrii its happened to me before and it still is happening but wen use r alone tlk to her about it and it might get through to her how u feel and maybe she'll listen
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17 but i dont know...shes told me how shes just gotten tired of friends in the past and just dumped them and i dont want to be the next one...im scared that if i talk to her about it she might think im overreacting and get pissed or worse confirm my suspicions and she just might flat out tell me she doesnt want to be friends...
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Don't let yourself be one of those "tired friends" if you can help it. You deserve better from a friendship. A real friend hangs around and is encouraging, positive and fun to be with. If she dumps your friendship suddenly and for no apparent reason obviously she is dealing with issues. Take a break from her and spend time with others. Don't bring anything about her up with your other friends if you can help it. Try and focus on things you like to do with your other friends and forget about her for a while. Perhaps she will come back and if not you will have moved on. We can't change anyone ...we can only take control of ourselves and the way we feel about a situation. You deserve to be happy, have confidence in and enjoy your friendships! :)
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thanks...its just we go to a small high school of about 500 kids freshmen through senior and i only really have friends at school. Shes a main part of the group and all of the friends i would otherwise hang out with all want to hang as a group including her. But she and i used to be the exception and would hang out alone. I guess i dont want to be a "tired friend" and i am trying to take a break but it hurts when i dont see her wanting to spend time with me like i want to spend time with her....gah...
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Honestly I have had things happen like that to me too. You sound like a kind, considerate person. It is too bad she doesn't see that right now for whatever reason at this time. I just had to learn to walk away no matter how much it hurt me. It is a bit like breaking up ...even if its a friendship. You need to take care of yourself and make your world positive even if it means letting her go. It might not be of any concern to her... but its hurting you. You know what kind of friend you can be and you really deserve to have people around you that make you happy. I think life just sometimes throws us curve balls like this and we have to learn how to adjust and make things work for us in order to be happy and healthy. Sounds like you shouldn't waste your time "beating a dead horse" as they say. What I meant was don't let her convince yourself you are a "tired friend"... you aren't that ...if anything you have made an effort to show you care and she tossed it back in your face. You are far from being that in my book.
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gracias...i really should try to move on and you're right it is kinda like breaking up and i honestly have tried distancing myself but i still dont want to lose hope. She became this huge part of my life 2 years ago and in 2 months its all fallen away and i guess im just trying to get my bearings. I also just dont want to sound like the jealous best friend who is jealous because her friend has another best friend. (like in about 35 different kids show episodes) Because we both have another best friend but some things we just kept to ourselves. thanks a bunch and ill try to take your advice and put it into further practice
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Sure thing... most of all do what feels comfortable for you. I know its difficult. I can imagine your pain, since I have been there myself. No matter how you approach this situation you will benefit from the experience and learn how to protect your feelings in the future in order to keep yourself on a happy and positive track. I suppose life has a funny way of showing/ teaching us its little lessons. Stay strong. :)
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it might be betta to no the truth rather than just sitting there thinking u no the truth but really u dnt no!!
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thats a reallii good idea u dnt want to sound to kiddiesh but yer i need help with sumthing