the second half of this year has literally been a nightmare. i had to replace all of the gas lines leading into my home over the summer just to have a major fire in my house 2 weeks later. we were displaced for 2 and a half months, living with a family member. my husband, me, 4 kids and 2 dogs all moved with my brother in law. we had to pay the bills here at my house plus help my brother in law with his bills. when we moved home we found out that we had to replace our furnace. the gas company said that we needed to have the burner on the old furnace cleaned, so as soon as we moved back home we called a heating and cooling place to come in and do that and they then informed us that there was no possible way to keep using it, so we had it replaced. now my roof is leaking and we need a new roof, we currently have a slate roof and we had someone come out and look at it, we were told that it needs replaced so we are keeping trash cans under the the spots where it is leaking to catch the water being the fact that replacing the roof is not going to be possible any time soon. my husband’s paychecks have been about half of what they normally are over the past few months due to the fact that he drives truck and his company hasn’t been getting good paying loads. now my son has pneumonia for the second time this year, adn my 2 year old daughter has asmatic bronchitis which means doctor bills and medicine. and on top of that my husband just found out that he has pneumonia pleurisy and a tumor on his lung along with his blood work showing a dangerous clot. they did catscans and found no clot that they can see but the blood work is showing different. we are behind on every one of our bills and the more we try to have everything paid the more it seems we are behind. i am hoping and praying that we receive some kind of christmas miracle so that my children can hopefully open presents from santa this year. it just seems like there is no hope any more for us. we tried to get help through various programs but they all seem to be dead ends. we make 20 dollars over for any type of assistance through welfare and when we called about getting help for christmas we were told that it is too late in the year. we didn’t apply earlier because we are the kind of people who don’t like to accept handouts and we have been trying every way possible to make ends meet and do christmas but now we are realizing that there is no way possible. we have one more paycheck before christmas but there are just too many important bills that absolutely have to be paid and we also need to go grocery shopping with that check. if you have any suggestions please let me know. and please pray for our family.
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why do people who want help post anonymously, seems strange, shouldn't be ashamed if you ask for help, i am disabled and poor, but I can offer to pray for you.
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I truly understand your condition. I was also turned down for help because I only made seven dollars over the limit. I am a single parent to four beautiful kids age 8 and under. I was involved in a head on collision and is still alive to tell you about it. Me and my kids also will have a poor Christmas this year. I think that this would be a great time for both me and you to share with our loved ones that this is the time to be thankful and it is not all about the gifts. I know that it will be diffucult for the little ones to understand but they will when they get older. I am thankful that after being involved in a head on collision, I was able to walk away with a few bruises and scratches. Pray and ask for a change. Although we will not have the best of Christmas this year I am still thankful that I am yet here to even see my kids. Thank GOD for what you have and not what you don't have. Believe me I am a witness. He heard you when you first prayed and your prayer has been answered.
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* Christmas hugs * I wish I could do more. The best thing to do when there are hard times is to be creative. I know we get caught up in the holidays and the gift giving. Just because times are exceptionally hard, doesn't mean that Santa Claus won't be come. My family had plenty of hard times. I have very little memories of getting the things I wanted for Christmas, but I do remember the special times during Christmas best. Here are my suggestions to have a wonderful Christmas, take it or leave it. Christmas Eve: Gather your family up; your hubby and your kids. Sit in the living room or at the place you're staying. Bundle everyone up with sweaters and blankets. Get huddled together. Earlier that day go pick out some special rocks or something similar. That night when you are all huddled together, tell a story (just make something up) about a family that lost each other in their lives but they always had a special rock to remember all the good times. And that one Christmas they finally found each other and they still had their rocks to remember one another. After you tell this story give out those special rocks that you picked out and tell them it's their missing stones. Tell them that whenever you feel lonely to just hold the stone and you all will feel their warmth and love. Make it a special night of appreciating the wonderful family you have and that toys and gifts could never replace the feeling of love. Make the story fascinating and memorable. Hold hands and sing Christmas carols. Do this over candlelight if you can. It'll make things cozier. Smile and kiss each other a lot. Forget about all the money problems and get your hubby to forget the money problems, too. Not only will the stones remind your family about the love you have for each other, but it will help everyone remember the night when you celebrated your family. Your family will love you for it. Have everyone just camp together on the floor that night. Christmas: Wake up early (if you can) and get excited. The key is too always stay happy and excited. It will rub off on the family. Wake everyone up and do it in an exciting way. Make everyone hot cocoa and sit around and play games all day together. Make up some games. Do Mad Libs, or have everyone draw pictures on you with pens. If you play games, this will stay fun for everyone. You have an entire week to think up some games. Try and find some on the internet. Pretend a lot. Be a kid again. Keep everyone warm with steaming hot cocoa and soup. That night just have dinner and just keep everyone smiling with your smiles and your excitement. As soon as your family sees you sad, everyone will be sad, and you don't want that. I promise you. Your children will remember this Christmas better than if you bought them a bunch of toys. Then every year afterwards, do the rock thing on Christmas Eve. It'll turn into a tradition and I'm sure they'll pass it to their children and talk about it amongst themselves every Christmas even long after your dead. This will remind the whole family that Christmas is not about the presents it's about being together and appreciating what you do have. I wish you the best of luck and love. I do hope you have a Merry Christmas.
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i'll be honest, i didn't feel like reading your whole post. i have three kids myself, and i'm in what most would consider a terrible financial situation, but the fact is, most is because of choices I have made. the best gift i can give my kids is love, and teach them that christmas/stuff will not make them happy. i hope you find peace in your situation.