I have been disabled for two years now, and we were able to make it on my husbands income which was good since we have four children under the age of 15. During the summer my husband ended up having three strokes and has been out of work since July 13th, 2007. We applied for assistance which we never had to do in our life time before and the process was very hard since we didn’t know what we were doing. We also have recently applied for social security, again another hard and long process. Public assitance findly was approved towards the middle of Sept. and as far as SS is concern nothing yet. We also tried for veteran help since my husband served in the Army but was told since we got help from public assistance they could not help us! The bills are starting to really pile up and we have been barely able to keep the utilities on from the check we get. We are very close to lossing our house if I can not find further help with mortage/rent payment (which are behind since August). Its funny how when people are in a true emergency situation they have a hard time getting help, but those who want to use the system get help in a blink of the eye. (Sorry alittle angry, I know its alot of stress causing it).
I am greatful for the little help we did find and are still hopeing for the social security to kick in then maybe everything will get better. We were told most likely my husband will not return to work or they don’t for see it in the near future ( I was already told this about my self two years ago. If anyone has any ideas as to where to go who to speak with or what my next move should be I am open for any and all ideas.
I would love to say I know everything will be okay but its hard with the hoildays comming and four children who will for the first time in their lifes receive nothing for christmas, and to know that we might not even have a house to live in by then either just kills us.
Please again any and all ideas will be greatfull! :) Thank You
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I'm so sorry for what you're going thru....I hate to suggest this, but have you considered some media attention? Your husband is a Vet and can't get the help he and his family needs. If you could get your story public, maybe someone would come forward to help and make sure the red tape gets cut. What about a local TV station or newspaper? Not asking for charity per say, but just asking that what is right be done and let people know that this government refuses too care for it's Veterans.
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My husband would most likely have a cow if I went totally public with everthing. Besides my three older duaghters would get very embarassed(sorry spelled wrong). My mom tried to get us to talk with a friend of hers that knows a reporter and the thumbs all went down in the family. I try to keep everyone up to date as to whats going on on one hand and on the other keep the children out of it the best I can so their grades don't drop from worrying. I will share your idea with my husband and see what he'll say but I have a feeling I already know. Thank You for taking the time to try and help. :)
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Well maybe let your husband know that as a vet, letting the public know that the government is not doing their part to help when they should...could change things for other vets too...the greater good ya know? But I understand how you feel about publicity, which is why I said I hated to suggest it...but it can be powerful tool. And it wouldn't be a pity story, but a look at the red tape we're dealing with. You wouldn't necessarily have to go totally public...but making people aware of what's going on with the Vets this country cherishes, might be worth it. I'm angry at the system for you. You will get thru this though...you're amazingly strong obviously. I only have one child, no illness and I can barely handle it. Good luck though and if I can think of anything else I'll let you know. :) Big hug for you and your family!
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Thank You again and (((((HUGS))))) back at you. I would love to think I am strong but there is days that tears take over believe me! I will let my husband know what you said and maybe he'll change his mind you never know with him right now. I will add you to our prayers and Thank You again. :)
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You're welcome! Of course you have tears. I have tears for you. But I'll be thinking about you. And, you never know....maybe once your family gets thru this challenge you could write a book about it or something to let people know how you did it. Your story will be an inspiring one and worthy of sharing.
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I already started on a journal just to keep track of everything that is going on. Between doctors for him and doctors for me, applying for everything and anything anyone suggusts and trying to keep up with the girls schools, I have to keep things wrote down or I will lose it and become bald in the process from pulling out my hair. I keep joking with the girls someday we will be rich if I ever publish this journal, so I found it interesting that you said that about writting a book. If it wasn't for family, friends, and this computer to keep me going I don't know where we would be right now. Thanks again. :)
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I must say that I think that you should let your kids know the situation at home you will be very supprized at how understanding and helpfull your kids can be. When our finances fell apart for me I did not want to tell my kids ( have two boys 12 and 6) yes I know what you might think they are too young, no. The started to help around the house so we did not need to pay the maid. They kept there room clean and this also made us apriciate our kids more. We are not out of our troubles yet but there is more happiness in my house now then when we had money.We pray together and go to church together. I believe that if you keep GOD first in your heart ,house and Family you will get through it all. here is just something to help... ,”may GOD be with you in every step u take,may he guide you in each decision you make,may He help you when life gets rough.may He lift you when you’ve hade enough , may He hear you when you call, May He soothe your heart when you don’t understand, may GOD always hold u in His Hand Have a blessed day and always remember that God is always with you he wants to help you and your Family just give him That chance.
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Thank you for the kind words and prayer. We have let the children know alittle as to what is going on but not all of it yet (we feel it might be just alittle to much to handle). We do pray together and hope for a brighter day to follow. There is just days its hard to keep the chin up if you know what I mean. Thank You Agin. :)
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Yes I know I still remember all the times I broke down. I believe that if you need to cry then cry most importantly always find time for yourself. It sounds like you need to be strong not only for yourself but the antire family. Every once in a while just cut off from everything and relax yes I know you are going to say relax we need food pay off the bills etc, but when your tiered you can not make informed desicions and this will lead to new problems. Always clear your mind from the day to day stress and relax. Put your trust in Gods hand and you will see is hand in all your problems. Keep well and I will continue to pray for you and your family.
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Thank you for the kind words and prayers!