I have living in shame because of the mistakes I’ve mader over the last few years, and it’s sapping my enjoyment of life, even my will to live. Does anyone know how to overcome shame? Thank you.
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forgetting what you have done in the past is the best way, and if others dont want to let you forget they are not worth bothering with gazz
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Very, very true. Somone I respected highly told me that even though he would forgive me, other people would not. That stuck with me, and has caused me to be very self conscious ever since. I wish he hadn't said that, and I wish I had never consulted him.
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there is only one person who can help you deal with it and it's only you who can do that. there is no reason to be ashamed of the thing you did because those mistakes you did in the past have shaped you as a new person today. tell yourself you have no control over the past now and you have to deal with the challenges laid in your eyes. move on. i wish you the best.
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think of the past as a learning exercise, and dont allow history to repeat, people say history always repeats itself but thats only if you let it gazz
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Try to forget your past and live in the present and look forward to make your life better in future. Everyone make mistakes and learn from them, If we don't make mistakes how will we ever learn?! I wake up every morning and look to myself in the mirror promise myself to make my day more better then the one that passed, Learn from my mistakes and improve my personality, if not for the people's sake its just for the sake of myself, my conscience and my life.
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You have to forgive yourself learn from it and move on. If someone throws it in your face tell them YES I"VE MADE MISTAKES but I'm doing my best to learn from them and move on. they may not believe you at first but all you can do is prove it to them and eventually it will all be forgotten
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You need to accept that your not "perfect" and that everyone makes mistakes in life. Just be willing to forgive yourself for messing up. You can't go back to the past and change it, but you do have a future ahead of you and you can also make a difference right now in the present. The past is now past. Let it go now and move on with your life. If it helps, write down all your mistakes and shame on paper and then count it all as garbage. Crumple up the paper, maybe rip it up. Now throw it all in the garbage can and leave it there. Now forgive yourself and move on with your life. Do not take the past garbage with you everywhere you go. Leave it behind in the garbage can/bag where it belongs. I hope this helps a bit. *hug* :)
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Thanks. :)
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your very welcome and I hope things will get brighter for you. You are special and you deserve the very best in life. You are not alone as we all make mistakes and do shameful things and regret it later. Welcome to the club. :) Things WILL get better for you. Just leave the bad stuff behind you.
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I sure hope so. :)
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remember who you are. this is the mind's way to lend you into a thinking pattern that probably existed prior to these "mistakes" you made. The only reason why another person will not forgive you is because they are most probably dealing with their own issues of shame, blame, inadequacy etc. We live in a society that demeans other's because of percieved weakness. However, it's the human condition that we are all subject to. Let this open you more to compassion. As you free yourself you free others. You do not have to punish yourself any lomger. I hope you can see this as an opportunity-it's a great one.