But what I can not figure out is that she has liked me for years from what her family tells me. Well what I really need help with is that she has not talked to me in a month. She acted like I was not alive. I did nothing wrong, in fact I treated her like a god, would have done anything in the world for this girl. Her parents and sister told me that she has never been treaded so good by a guy. She has dated some loosers and she knows it even her parents know it and dont like it. But back to the point at hand. She stoped talking to me period. Well the past few days she started sending me text messages that are just jokes, funny text messages. Nothing about our relationship. The other day I had went to her house befor she went to work and tried to talk to her about everything. She would not hardly look at me. When she did look at me she looked as if she wanted to cry her eyes where glazed over. She would not give me a answer to why she broke up with me just other than she said she no longer had feelings for me. Which I think is a lie, because of the way she acted the whole time we where dating. She would always cuddle up to me and kiss on me all the time. We would always flirt back and forth. Cutting up just having a good time. Well back to the text messages. Today I sent one this morning just asking if she was working. She finally texted me back. Then she started asking if I was working and what I was going to be doing today. I told her then she goes on to tell me about her day, who I am very close with, about his situation in the hospital. She knows I know everything because I talk to him daily. I told her that I had already talked to him. Then I told her that I was going to let her get back to work. She said ok have a nice day. I told her “you to” was I wrong to end the conversation like that. And why all of a sudden does she want to talk after not talking to me for a month. I dont understand she know that I love her with out a doubt. And we have been friends for almost 10 or 11 years now. I dont want to loose all of that. But what am I to do? She has treaded me like crap the past month and I am tired. Any help??
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FIRST OFF.. AS LONG AS SHE IS WANTING TO CONTACT YOU.. LET HER FEEL COMFORTABLE ENOUGH TO DO SO.. DONT ASK HER ANY QUESTIONS OF WHY..THIS WILL CONTINUE WITH THE FRIENDSHIP ATLEAST. AFTER YOU REALIZE THAT THE FRIENDSHIP IS ALL GOOD, SHE WILL PROBABLY OPEN UP TO YOU.. AND TELL YOU WHY. ALTHOUGH A VERY SLOW PROCESS THAT WILL MAKE YOU WANT TO PULL YOUR HAIR OUT OF YOUR HEAD.. IT WILL WORK... ALSO.. IF SHE HAS TREATED YOU LIKE CRAP.. AND HASNT BEEN IN YOUR LIFE FOR OVER A MONTH... THEN YOU SHOULD TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.. AND AS HARD AS IT IS TO HEAR... MAYBE YOU SHOULD MOVE ON...
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Umm, if she treated you like crap, why do you want her? Do you love her? are you willing to die for her? By the way you are talking, you really do care about this girl. I had a bf, and we lasted for 4 months. I really loved him. He made me happy. You know?? But all I can really say is ''Follow Your Heart.'' and do what you think is right. If I were you, I would try to get her back:) Love her anyway even though it may not seem like she loves you in return. if you need anymore help, you can IM me. heres my IM address: tanya193 Thankyou. -Tanya
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My opinion is...She cheated on you. She cares about you but was probably sure that you would find out and dump her. Since she couldn't stand that thought she broke up with you first. This girl is used to dealing with bad guys...she may be unknowingly sabotaging her life because of whatever she is dealing with in her personal life. Truthfully I don't think she is ready for a relationship. If you really care about her try to connect...but be her friend...remain her friend until she realizes that she is worth your love. Don't pressure her (which I think you may be doing now...or at least she thought you were)...if it is meant to be it will be...if it's not then it's ok...at least you'll still have a friend who you've known for most of your life.