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Originally Posted by desertmom
How are you? I know you don't know what to think, yet, but you are building a little person! I was shocked when I found out I had dd inside of me (had no clue), but she is such a wonder!
I'm doing ok. I think I'm probably feeling just about every emotion there is. I think we're probably going to wait till Thanksgiving to tell DH's family, and I haven't figured out when I'll tell mine. I can only pray that they'll (my family) will be happy.
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It will be okay...it will, it will, it will!!!
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Originally Posted by blessed_with_6
It will be okay...it will, it will, it will!!!
Oh, I know it will. I'm still trying to get it to sink in. We've been married almost 7 years and for the first few years we tried, then came to the conclusion it wasn't meant to me. Then I got pregnant in August 2004, miscarried September 2004 at 9 weeks. And March of 2005 found out I was pregnant with Aidan, we had JUST started trying again after the 3 months waiting period. Just a couple of months ago, L mentioned he might like to have another one, I wasn't so sure. And we tried ONCE! Part of me feels sad for all the people who want to be parents so badly and they try and try and here we do it once and get pregnant.
I guess the good Lord knows what He's doing, I just wish he'd let me in on His plan. LOL
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I'm sorry that you are in so much turmoil right now. But I do think that all will be wonderful once you are able to wrap your mind around it and work out the hurdles. The second baby is double the trouble but twice as much fun.
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Thanks Jeanette. I know it will all work out. I think right now I'm just trying to figure out a way to tell my family.
At least we hung on to all the baby equipment! Bassinet, stroller and carrier/carseat, swing, bouncy seat, jumperoo...and if it's a boy (which DH already says it is and he was right with Aidan) I've got clothes to get started, since I've hung on to alot of Aidan's stuff he's outgrown.
I got to crying this morning and told DH I just don't want Aidan to ever think I don't love him as much after the baby is born.
uh,oh...here I go again....
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I have two children spaced 17 1/2 months apart..and two others who are just 16 months apart. I really, really worried..but it is FINE. ALL of my children are close..and they have built in playmates. Granted, they also have built in boxing partners, but thankfully the playing times far outweigh the boxing matches!!!
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Why are you worried about what your family will think? They won't be raising the baby, it's YOURS! The day they can judge and complain is the day they can start doing all your work, carry your stresses (and the baby ) and pay your bills. This little one is a gift to you and your family (your immediate, nuclear one) is what really counts.
It is a bit early, of course, to tell Aiden, unless you want what I had: I found out by accident when I went to do a clinical trial for insomnia - they have you take a pregnancy test first. Afterward, my son, who was 4 at the time, and I went to a store. He walked up to a couple of old ladies gabbing and announced that mommy got a baby in her tummy. Of course, he then had to tell everyone else. He's still a great big brother. They ended up being the best thing for each other.
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You have to know my family to understand. Of course, they could surprise me. They did with Aidan.
Since he's only a year I don't know that he'll understand anyway, hopefully as time goes on, he'll understand what's going on with mommy.
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Lexi and Aubrey are the exact age apart as your two are going to be and let me tell you they are the best of friends already. Lexi took it great. It even brought her and I closer. Just include him. Have him go get a bottle or a diaper. Take him to the Dr appointments. It helps. Let him feel the baby kick. It will be fine. To me - two is easier then 1!
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First off, congrats! I'm only now seeing your post......2nd...please don't worry about Aidan...he KNOWS you love him and he'll know it after baby comes along...my 2 are 27 months apart, and I agree with Jenny...for my...2 was the same as 1 when they were so little! Kelsey was my helper when I pregant, and after Colin was born, she helped, and still does! She wasn't very int ofeeling the baby kick though...maybe b/c she was so little, but she could have cared less!
You'll do fine!