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Hello ladies, I have always had a burning desire to be a surrogate mother. Im finding by looking on the net, that Im not the ideal age. I love being pregnant, I have the easiest pregnancies and births. I have 5 children of my own and am not having anymore. I want to help the right couple have a child of their own. I just turned 37 Am I crazy or does anyone think its do-able??
Laurie
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I think it is wonderful that you are considering becoming a surrogate mother. What a gift that would be to give to a family! I'm sorry that I can't be any help to you, but I hope you are able to hear from someone who has been a surrogate, so that you can hear the pros and cons.
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Bless your heart for wanting to do this!! I know i never could.
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I actually considered this for a friend of mine who could get pregnant but not stay pregnant....she miscarried three times. They ended up finding the "problem" , believe it or not all she had to do was take one baby asprin a day...and now she has two boys that she carried on her own. anyway, I think this is a beautiful gift. I don't know if I would do it for a "stranger", but that is your choice. They only hesitation I would have is becoming attached to the baby, having carried him/her for nine months and potentially not being in their lives. with my friend I knew that we would stay in touch. anyway, just thought I would share. Good luck, with whatever you choose!!
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I too have considered this although i am 35 and that's boarderline i believe. I am also over weight and lastly i'm not sure if i'm done having my own kids just yet.
Ask around your area and look into finding a nearby Fertility Clinic. They would have couples to put you in contact with and let you know if your able to be a surrogate. I think if your in good health and you've not had any complications with your past pregnancies that 37 wouldn't be out of the question.
Good luck!!!!!
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Oh I totally want in on this conversation! This is something I've thought about doing since before I started having children of my own. I still think I might -- one day. I am only 24 so I have time. I think the only requirements are that you've already had a child of your own and are healthy. I know this sounds bad, but I would do it for the money. Neither my husband or me have a retirement fund and that's what I would put it toward. I think I would try to find a couple that would be the biological parents so I wouldn't feel like I was giving away my own child. I actually called a lady one time and asked about it and she said to call her when I was ready to look further into it. I still have her number somewhere...she was very nice. I'm curious to see if anyone from this board has done this.
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I like this topic alot as well.
I have not done this ...yet. As of next year I may be surrogating for my sister. She already has a baby boy who will be one in 3 weeks but she has problems with blood clots and on advice from her doctor as well as her entire family. She is thinking about using a surrogate and asked if I would be able to. I advised that I would likely consider it if she uses her own egg. She had been contimplating the idea of me using mine because it is so much cheaper ($12,000 vs. $600 approx) and the fact that who is closer to you than your own blood sister. I have strongly advised to her that I will not use mine. I am so attatched to my nephew as it is, if the baby were my own I would be devastated. I think.
Well anyway, I have done some research but not nearly enough to know a whole lot. If you do have any questions or just want to talk about let me know. I am always interested in hearing others opinions since I am probably going to be doing this.
has some good advice from women on the topic.
Good luck!
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i would love to do it. but i don't think i can. my first pregnancy was considered high risk since i went in to preemie labour with her 3 times and had her at 32 weeks. and they classify all my labours as high risk now. but it would be very nice to do for someone. i woul dhave to know them very well to do it for them.
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Just thought I would say this.. For all you ladies who are conisidering this THANK YOU!!!!! as a women who can no longer have her own children without fertility help I know the heartbreak of wanting a child and not being able to have one. Just the fact that you ladies are even considering it make my heart so full with pride to even be your online friends. Just wanted to say that.. PAtricia & Treston
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I'm so glad someone wrote on this topic - this is something I've thought about ALOT and would LOVE to do for a couple. I would not want to use my eggs - I think I would feel like it was too much my baby. I've brought it up to my dh and he is totally against it. My best friend is having some fertility issues now and I told him if she were to ever ask me to be a surrogate the answer is YES.