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My son is in Kindergarten and today another little boy passed out a few birthday party invitations, my son was not one of them. I dont want to sound like a spoil sport mom but isnt it common knowledge if the whole class isnt invited that the parents should send an invite in the mail? Today there was a sub so maybe she didnt know better. There were probaly 5 kids that came out waving their invites and all the others looked sad!!!! Am I wrong to assume this is okay??? I feel so sad for my little guy, of course one of the 5 invited is his best friend and the one I babysit after school.
Have any of you ever had to deal with this?
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My kids arn't in school yet but my cousin is in 2nd grade and her mom was telling me that the teachers sent out notes at the beginning of the year saying that if you were not going to invite the entire class to the birthday party, please do not allow your child to hand out invites during class. I think this is a much better approach.
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my ds is also in Kg, and the rule is they are sent in the mail. We actually got an invite in the mail. They are meant to be passed out, that is wrong and that does cause hurt feelings, I feel for the kids who didnt get them, I would mention it to the teacher so she can maybe mention it to the birthday kids mom.
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In my sons school they have to invite the whole class. Or the boys can invite all the boys, and the girls can invite all the girls. The parents should have known that would cause hurt feelings. I don't understand some people.
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One of the first rules mentioned at my son's school is the whole class is invited or mail them. That is just wrong. Personally, I would write a letter to the teacher and cc the principal on this one. That should not be happening - sub or not. I would do it nicely, of course, but I would want to keep it from happening again.
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Claire,
I am going to do just that. Its just WRONG!
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I feel so bad for your son and all the other kids who didnt get invited. That just not right. My dd has to invite everyone or nobody at all.
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First of all I think that you are right to say something. Kindergartners don't know NOT to tell anyone if they are invited to something. I am lucky with my dd her birthday is in Auust so if we have a party she can pick and chose who she wants to come and not have any hurt feelings. Good luck I know how it is for them to not get invited... I was once that kid
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My children's school has always had a rule that bday invites couldn't be passed out. Even if all the kids were being invited. I hate when kids feel left out and hurt.
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When the kids were small we just did an in class party with treats for everyone no presents were given to my kids and no one was left out. Now we invite by mail or phone and go roller skating or the movies.