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My ds is 21 mo. and my dd is almost 4. She was and still is a breeze (hardly acts up and if she does, its time out and she doesn't do it again, mostly). Well, my ds laughs when I try to chase him to get him to pick up his toys. He giggles and runs in the other room, so he doesn't take this seriously. I don't like to spank cause that just makes him cry and want snuggles and doesn't resolve the issue at all. He seems to young for a time out, but I don't know. I don't want to be too strict or spank when he won't understand why he's being punished, but I don't want to raise a spoiled unruly child. He also tends to throw fits in public and when he doesn't get his way. I have heard from a mommy show that the best thing to do is ignore the tantrums cause he wants the attention, but he doesn't necessarily stop throwing the tantrum when he sees I'm ignoring him. Help!
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DD did very well with timeout at that age. It was only a minute and I set a timer so that she knew that she would get out. If I remember right, I pretty much sat her against the wall and stood right in front of her with my back to her. If she got up, then I out her back and started the timer again. Sometimes it would take awhile, but it eventually worked!
As far as tantrums, I have picked her up and taken her to her room and walked out. But she doesn't really have bad ones.
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both my boys started timeouts at a little over a year it is only 1 minute per year of age. if they want to get up and run off(typical of a young child) then you need to sit there with them until the time is up.. i started my boys early so they get one warning now (they are 2 and 5) and usually that is all it takes very rarely do they sit in time out because they know i'm serious.
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Trestonm is 22 almost 23 months old and he has been doing timeouts since he was about a year old also. Now he will actually sit there when I put him on the time out stool (a little kids blue stool I bought at the thrift store for 50 cents) After the minute is up I tell him he needs to say sorry to whomever it was. IF it was something he did wrong then he tells me sorry and that he won't do it again and then I hug and kiss him and he gets down and goes off to play. SOmedays we have quite a few timeouts and other days we have next to none. HTH you patricia
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thanks all you girls! I started doing the time outs today for one minute and am seeing improvement. I'll keep it up. Thanks again
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good luck! Boys are different! my girl is a breeze, my son well dh calls him the terrorist. Nothing really works on him although we do timeouts, talk extensively and sometimes if it's warrented spank. I've been told it's just the age, so we'll see. Mines 2 1/2 now!
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sound slike my house except my ds is almost 3. we did timeouts at that age and were just persistent with them. we do give spanks occasionally, and he always wants a snuggle after. i always give him that snuggle so that he knows mommy still loves him, and it doesn't negate the spank at all. i hug him and tell him why he got that spank and he understands. and its been like that since he was 2. he absolutely hates timeouts, and they usually work.