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ok here's the long story................
I unofficially always took care of anything shool.mostly b/c I am here and dh is at work. the kids are home for 1 1/2 hrs b4 dh gets home. well, at night he is responsible for night time routine. of which it usually never happens. (I work evenings and am not home at bedtime.) the kids are supposed to brush teeth, doesn't happen. supposed to read, doesn't happen, supoosed to clean up, doens't happen. he waits to long b4 starting that he ends up skipping reading and brushing teeth and cleanup is 5min long. dd's are caught in the middle. they were doing so good until dh took over school stuff. basically I got tired of apearing to be the only one concerned it was getting done. I know other parents struggle with this. I need suggestions. this is turning into such a big thing. it shouldn't be this hard.
allgirls
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Don't know what to tell you!! I am responsible for all the school stuff too! Dh will take care of it, but only if I tell him spicifically what needs to be done!
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Does your husband understand that the girls are struggling with their school work because he isn't taking the time to help them in the evening. Tell him that unless he wants to work a second job so that you don't have to work evenings that needs to stick to the evening routine and make sure everything is done.
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I actually cut back on my hours due to this issue. if I cut back anymore I won't have a job.
I personally think it has more to do with his mom being a single mom. his dad died when he was a baby and she never remarried until he was an adult. I think he subconscoiusly doesn't think twice about helping me. of course that doesn't explain for every other dh out there in the world.
allgirls
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What if you made up a chart to post, with times to start this, that, and what order? Men forget so easily and procrastinate. My husband is always telling me to write it down for him. Gee, why don't you write it down yourself? But he won't. Anyway, this may be a start. I do this for my kid, too.
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I was going to suggest making a chart too. When my DH is in charge of the evening routine he always blows it and the kids get to bed too late.
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How about telling him not brushing teeth equal a huge bill in the future!!!
How about giving him a call around the time he's suppose to start the routine...maybe that will clue him in that those things really need to be done!!