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For those of you that have Joint or Rotating Custody....how is it working out?? Do you feel that the kids are happy?? Do they get adaquate time with each parent?? Do you feel that they would rather be with just one parent??
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My situation is a bit different, since it is my grandson. But we have him every other week and the other grand parents have him the other weeks. This obviously will not work when he is in school since we live more than an hour apart. I do not think it works well at all!!! My grandson comes home tired and mean!! There are no other little kids there, so he gets all the attention. He wrestles with everyone there and when he is here he tackles my 3 yr old all the time and is always demanding attention. I think it would be so much easier for him to have one primary residence with just visitation to the other. I don't think I can handle it this way much longer.
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Oh wow, that is tough. and you are right it will not work once he starts school. Kids need structure and stability. Are you going to be able to get that changed??
That is exactly what my ex-husband wanted to do. Every other week. I said absolutely not, and I put my foot down. We went through mediation ( it was just finalized about 3 months ago) and he finally agreed for me to be the primary parent. He has them every other week and one full week a month. Which I don't like, because of school. But now that I am the primary it will be easier for me to go back to get in changed, legally.
We did rotating in the begining, every few days, that didn't work. Then he had them during the week and I had them on weekends for about two years (see my other post) now my husband and I have had them with us during the week, going on two years, and it will stay this way.
They have gone through a lot of change, and I am very fortunate that they have adjusted beautifully. I have always tried to do what is best for them. And have always been open and honest with them and got their opinions to things along the way. They have never been "blind sided" with our adult decisions.
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My grandson is just 2 yrs old. It has been this way for pretty much a year. I keep hoping for some miracle that my dd will learn some responsibility and actually take him. Actually the parents have joint custody, just neither of them have any sense of responsibility so the grandparents are trying our best. He is just so spoiled over there being the only one that it is so hard when he is here with 5 other kids.
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That is too bad for your dd, I hope for your sake he learns some responsibilty too. But it is hard to be young and a parent. I was 19 when I had my first baby. So I know that all too well. I am assuming he is around that age?? That has to be hard on your grandson too. Are the other grandparents that set on seeing him so much?? I guess so, or you wouldn't be doing that. That just makes me so sad for your grandson. I am sure he is much better off just staying with you and seeing his other grandparents one weekend a month or something like that.