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When you were pregnant, did you have your baby shower(s) before or after the baby was born? Why?
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I don't think I would have my own shower that just doesn't seem right to me. Both my pregnancies my friend had one for me before the baby came which was great. I don't think I would have liked to have one after. It takes me a good almost year before I feel good about my appearance (nothing fits right)and I wouldn't be able to enjoy it worrying about the next time the baby needed fed or when they are going to cry.
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For DS1 I had no shower b/c he came 3 months early. So for DS2 we ended up having 2, DH's job gave one and we threw our own little "party" before, in about the 8th month. I like it before mainly because once the baby comes, you are too exhausted for anything...ESPECIALLY if you are breastfeeding! For me it was like I had a new growth on my boob for the next 4 months.
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mommy&wifeisme ~~~~~Sorry, I didn't word that well. I meant to say that when others threw you a shower, did they have it before or after the baby? Sorry for the confusion I caused on that one!
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With my two i had a shower before they arrived. However i gave my sil a shower after she had her little boy. Sooooooooooooooo i think either way is fine. I guess i had mine before because i was so excited.....i wanted a party. Haha!! My sil had hers after because she does everything a little slower. (I don't mean that in a mean way.) She just wasn't prepared for a shower before.
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We did have a "shower" for DS2, hosted by ourselves, but we did not call it that or register for items or mention gifts. We only invited family members that were very close and "like-family" friends to a lunch at a restaurant where we knew the owner and got a good deal. We played some "shower" games, ate cake. That was it. No one in my family would do a shower for me because they are highly superstitious. After the loss of so many "normal" things when DS1 came early, it was a part of the healing process for us to experience something normal like a shower, even if we had to do it ourselves. It was more about the experience than the gifts for us.
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With my first one, I had one shower before and one after. I had had alot of trouble getting pregnant and was somewhat superstitious having one before the baby was born. But I think either way is fine. Probably depends some on if the person needs to stuff to care for the baby when it's born, or if they already have alot of the stuff.
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Well, I had three showers for my first daughter and they were all before the baby was born. (I didnt have one for my second dd and wont for this dd b/c we are well stocked) BUT, I can say that I wouldnt have done it any other way. This might sound selfish BUT...
While youre pregnant (with your first, atleast) you're the center of attention, and as soon as the baby is born it all shifts. (this isnt a bad thing) but it just seems to make more sense to have the shower before. because EVERYONE will be there after the baby is born and you will be like, "please leave"
And.. I found that after each baby was born people always came to see them and brought them ANOTHER gift.
Either way works though!
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With my first, I had several showers before she was born. Then with the next two, my friends just had a party with presents after the baby came. It was with families and very casual. I liked the parties after because it wasn't so formal and I could drink with everyone else instead of just watching them all have fun at MY party! And because the gender of the baby was known I could get gender appropriate clothing.
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With ds #1 we had three before hand. One with friends, one with my work and one with dh's work. Everybody was so excited, they went overboard. We didn't know the gender so everything was green, yellow and that sort of thing.
With ds #2, we did know the gender so didn't need one. Some friends insisted so I had a small one - also before.
With dd, we found out the gender and my friends went NUTS! We had one before hand that was combined with two other friends who were pregnant. It was so much fun. My friends had a good time buying me pink things.
All three were baptized around 4 weeks old so we had smaller shower type parties after the baptism. They were not meant to be that way, but it was at my parents' home in Orlando so it was family and friends that lived far away from us.
The only showers I have attended after the baby was here were for an adoptive mom (my Mom had mine after I was here, but they got me suddenly) and a friend whose baby arrived prematurely before the scheduled shower occured. But, I don't think anything is wrong with doing it afterwards.