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Would you let your "ex" do this......
Stay at your house to babysit, while you were on a trip???
My sister and her new boyfriend are planning a trip for Valentine's Day. He ex-husband can not keep the kids over night (because he lives with his parents and they won't let him). So, she is letting him stay at her house to watch the kids.
I am sorry, but I would be telling my boyfriend "so, sorry, but I can't go". I just can't believe how desperate she gets at times. Just to make sure that she gets "a real life" as she puts it.
It just drives me insane that she gets like this. It is more important for her to be on this trip, than anything else. Not to mention what that will do to the kids that "Daddy is at home".
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Hmmm....maybe I don't know all the details, but this doesn't sound that bad to me. If she gets along with her ex and he's a responsible person who is not a drunk or thief or whatever, then I would think it would be better for the kids to have him there in their own home with their own things so they can keep on their same routine etc then having someone else come in and babysit or taking them somewhere else. Now I don't know the kids ages, and I do agree that a trip with a "boyfriend" should come secondary to the welfare of her children, but if the father's a responsible person I would think it will work out okay. JMO
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Let me just add...no he is not responsible, barely pays child support...moved away out of state because he didn't want to "deal with things". And now he is back. And has been known to go in my sister's house and take things. the kids are 6 and 2. I could go on and on.....
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At this point in our relationship - ABSOLUTELY NOT!! When my former DH first moved out it was over Christmas break and since he worked evenings, he continued to come over to my house to watch DS during the day. We actually continued this arrangment for several months until over Spring Break I was able to confirm that he was using my computer to not only contact other women but also watching P*RN on the computer while at my house supposedly taking care of DS. I stopped allowing him at my house period, immediately. My ex is absolutely not trustworthy with anything that I have in my house so I would NOT let him be there when I was gone.