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alone with the baby?
I do. I was scared to death. Prior to having my oldest ds, I had ZERO baby exposure or experience. I read every single book out there on how to parent. I totally didn't trust myself. I was a wreck. AND I felt like I would let my dh down. He was one of eight kids with the mother of all mothers. The patience, the sweetness, the nuturing spirit and did I mention the PATIENCE of a saint? So totally not me! I was so afraid after having Zach I wouldn't even stack up to her.
But then, in the first few moments after dh left for work and I found myself alone with him for the FIRST time, I had this uncontrollable urge to just CRY. Tears of joy, exceitment, anxiousness, and fear. BUT more than anything tears of love and anticipation for what the future may hold for our family. I rocked him in the rocking chair for the first 1/2 hour and then just gazed down at him in amazement of what I had created, feeling so proud and feeling so ..... motherly. Those were my feelings the first time I was alone with the baby. When the reality of life set in
Now it's nothing to be alone with the kids. It's been 3 1/2 years since I've had those feelings. Now being alone with them is just simply called life!! But just the other day as I was looking through baby pictures my heart jumped back into that time of anticipation, excitement and fear all over again. Wow, time sure flies doesn't it?
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Oh, yeah! I was terrified! Plus, I was so out of sorts not going to work. It was weird. I remember, too, my first day as a sahm. I think I freaked out more on that day. Here I was alone with this baby and that was my sole job now with no extra income coming in. It was a bit overwhelming.
I also remember when my mother left when he was 2 weeks old. The first night dh and I had the baby alone I think we both were freaked out. I cried when my mother pulled out of our driveway to go home!
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I think I took it in stride. But as you know, I am a pretty laid back person. Now, after about 3 nights of screaming all night, I was ready to throw her out the window (she never slept!!!) But I didn't and we surrvived and now she is 20 and I would once again like to toss her out a window!
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Originally Posted by Claire
Oh, yeah! I was terrified! Plus, I was so out of sorts not going to work. It was weird. I remember, too, my first day as a sahm. I think I freaked out more on that day. Here I was alone with this baby and that was my sole job now with no extra income coming in. It was a bit overwhelming.
I also remember when my mother left when he was 2 weeks old. The first night dh and I had the baby alone I think we both were freaked out. I cried when my mother pulled out of our driveway to go home!
Oh yah me too. I had been working all my life up until that point. I mean sometimes even two jobs. Then over night I was a SAHM. I do miss having the extra income, but I would have such a hard time giving up this precious time with the kids for money. I have debated it a few times, but in the end decided to stay home. I am pretty certain once they are both in school I will go back, or maybe even back to school, but again, I want to be accessible to them
When Zach was born my mom came to stay with us, and then my MIL did too. It was two weeks of having someone here and ready to watch the baby if I wanted to shower or do laundry. Then over night (again), Dh went back to school, my mom went home and my MIL went on to see my SIL who too gave birth. When the cars left the driveway I cried. It was then that I realized " I am doing this (being a MOM) for the rest of my life". Pretty overwhelming
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bumping up!
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Gosh, I was so overwelhmed. I had dinner brought over every night by someone or another for my sanity...I to had no experience with babies and I remember the first time my hubby left me to go bowl, since I could not. I was crying and exhasted and my sister came over and watched baby while I took a bubble bath. It was a great relief and I felt so much better after that. I also remember sleeping on the couch the first three months of his life and hoping to sleep from 12 to 5 am as there was nothing on TV from those times...lol
Gosh, I don't know why it was so hard...my second was nothing like that....I guess it was first time mommyhood. By the way, where were all those dinners with number two???
Now staying home for the first time as a SAHM...that was another challenge
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the first time i was alone with my dd wasn't until she was atleast 2 weeks old. seh was a preeemie. i never had a doubt. i was only 18, but i followed my every instinct, and she wasa very easy baby. i wasn't scared or nervous. looking back i wonder why i wasn;t. i should have been, i had never really been around babies before. according to my mother and the other women in my family i was just a natural at motherhood. i never read a single book or article until dd was over a year old. i was lucky. i really followed my instincts as much as i could.
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Even in the hospital. The nurses talked to me like I knew nothing, then had the nerve to leave him alone with me!!! Do I hold him? Should I leave him in his bassinett? Do I feed him if he doesn't seem hungry? How do I change him with IVs in my hands? Why do they wear that toxic nail polish around my pure, susceptible baby? Why do they wear perfume in the Labor and Delivery room, when we're so nauseous!
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I remember getting ready to leave the hospital thinking, What? They're going to let me just TAKE HIM? I can just take him HOME??? Oh my gosh, they are letting me walk out of here with this tiny baby and I don't know what I'm DOING!!!!!
Fast forward to after I'd had my 3rd child. I remember the scared feeling I had when I had to take them all out with me to the grocery store for the first time... I was like a rubber-neck, looking left, then right, then left, right - making sure I knew where all the kids were! I kept thinking I'd forget one of them, leave one behind, or someone would snatch one while I was busy with the baby... oh GOSH I was a wreck!!! No biggie now, but there just seemed to be SO MANY of them!!! And they all could just BOING out of sight at any moment!!!
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Just had to add something... when my poor, "deer-in-the-headlights" hubby and I brought our first baby home, we truly had no idea what to do with him! We put him in the bassinet and just stood there looking at him. And looking at him some more. I don't know how long we just stood there looking at him, we were both so stunned and bewildered with the whole concept. My cats were even more bewildered than we were... they were not happy with the new addition to the family!