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Ds has started potty talk this school year (he just turned 5). He picked it up from school from one of his good friends. We were just at their house, and while the little boy is not allowed to speak that way in school (didn't work ) or in public, the mother informed me he IS allowed to talk that way at home.
Of course my ds thinks it's hysterically funny. At first I ignored it, but that did not work. I then kept reminding him that we don't talk that way, etc. It will get better, but when he gets together with this certain boy it gets way worse. Today the boy at a playdate called my son a poop head, over and over. My son laughed, but later told me he didn't like it. I told him he had to use his words and tell they boy he didn't like it or the other boy was not going to stop. When we were leaving, the mom was attending to the other child, and the boy said the same thing, over and over to my ds. I told him I didn't think that was very nice, and the boy looked at me and said, "well, (my son's name) thinks it's funny". And then I looked at him and said, "well I don't".
Anyway, I'm supposed to be dropping a friend of my ds's off at daycare three times a week starting next week, and I heard from this little boy's mom (the one with potty talk) that the girl I'm going to be picking up is the one her son got all the potty talk from
I want my ds to have friends but I hate this behaviour. If I have a problem with this girl in our car I intend to say something to her that we don't talk like that. However, what else has worked for everyone else? I just think potty talk is unacceptable and coarse sounding but I know I'm sort of uptight about it. Any advice? Thanks!
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I just don't know that there really is any way to avoid it. I think it is a normal stage in development. I always tell my kids that I don't approve and I don't think my kids are as bad as alot are, but at age 5 they do just think that pretty much any bodily function is halarious.
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Stormy,
I feel your pain my son is also 5, I just keep stating how inappropriate it is and to please stop. Though he is past the poppy head stage and has moved on to penis and vagina. Its driving me crazy. I cant believe that other mom allows them to talk this way! Just keep correcting them and remember as I am trying hard to do myself, This to shall pass!
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That was going to be my response, too. "This too shall pass."
It is an important developmental phase. Not much you can do about it.
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The really funny thing is that I remember myself doing it too with my brother. We would say it away from our parents and just laugh out heads off. Maybe he got it from me
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I feel your pain. My 2 youngest have gone through this too. They still do to some extent. What my daycare provider does and I do at home as well is if they talk "potty" talk I tell them they need to go into the bathroom alone to talk potty talk and that no one else wants to hear it. If I hear it twice from the same child I make him go up into the bathroom. Just having to leave the "group" is bad news for my boys so I don't usually hear it after that.
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I love that idea, not sure it would work with the older ones but will try it out.
Had a really pround mommy moment yesterday NOT! Ds knows how to write but not really spell, yesterday he wanted me to spell fart which I said no to. Dont you think he figured it out and sad to say its the first spelling he has done all on his own figures In the same breath it was humorous!
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Originally Posted by momof2boys
Though he is past the poppy head stage and has moved on to penis and vagina.
OMG! Are you kidding me? At 5 the P & V? Tho the one time I heard my boys (3 1/2 and 5) talk the poopy talk (they had said Poopy Butt), I told them that was a bad word and not to say it again and we don't say it in this house, I have not heard it again.
I agree, it's something they WILL pick up/hear in school, but not much you can do but to just educate them to not say it in your house.
Yes totally agree, this too shall pass!
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Thought I was doing the right thing by telling him the correct name of body parts. He doesnt walk around calling anyone a V or P head just will say the words over and over. So far this week he hasnt said a thing about either, so maybe just maybe it is passing!