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I am so sad my DH does not want anymore kids ( we have 4), I am young ( 24) and i dont feel like I am done having kids.people have told me you know when you are done but I want one more in like 6 years! Did any of you want more kids but spouse didnt agree? i dont even know if this is the right board to post this on, if not please move it!
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Just keep your options open. You're so young, and you never know what the future may bring. I wanted more, dh said no, then changed his mind years later - but I'm old. I was 43 when I had my last one and I only have two. You have plenty of time to change your and his minds. I love being a mom and I loved being pregnant. Men are just wired differently. Enjoy what you have for now, as this isn't a decision you need to make now or even in the near future. Personally, I think four is plenty, but you never know how you will both feel after the first one leaves home......?
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My first marriage, we had two, and I wanted more but he didn't. He got a vasectamy(sp?)
We divorced. My new dh always wanted his own children. So I got to have more. (one more and I was done)
My ex found someone else, who always wanted her own children too. He is going through a lot right now to try to make that happen.
Not they you guys will end up divorced. But you never know what will happen, like desertmom said above.
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I was actually supposed to have tubal ligation after this baby was born, but decided a few weeks ago not to. My husband agrees with me, we are just going to be very careful because we do not want another child anytime SOON. I would keep my options open until you are 100% sure. I just watched a Baby Story on TLC where this woman had three daughters and had her tubes tied and a few weeks later was HYSTERICAL b/c she regretted it so much.
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I have SIX, and I would still have another one if dh would agree. He won't though, and I just have to remember that he has given me so much by fathering the six we have, working his tail off to allow me to be a stay at home mom, etc. Why should MY wishes outweigh HIS?? I do think, though, that if there is any possibility of wanting another one, that NOTHING permanent be done. My dh had a vasectomy after baby #3. We had it reversed to have a fourth, 4 years later. It was a horrible surgery for him to go through....and I am not sure, knowing what I know now, that I could ask him to do that again. The success rate is also not always that great...but we got lucky. We got not one more baby, but God decided to give us two more after that!!! (and we had had a second vasectomy after baby number 4!!!!!!)
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I will be 34 this year, so a little older...hahaha I want another child and hubby does not. He has agreed that if I really want one more I can have it though. I am not quiet ready, but do not want to wait to long. I have an 18 month old and almost 4 year old. I would not do anything permenant at your age. I will have one more and be done, but I am at an age that I can be okay with that. Listen to your heart and just take precautions.
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You should get a Mirena IUD. It will buy you 5 years of great birth control and if you decide before then that you want another, you can just have it removed and your cycles will get right back to normal. I got one after our second child last year because we weren't quite ready to do the vasectomy thing. I paid a $25 copay for 5 years of not even having to think about getting pregnant and barely having periods. I love the IUD!
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Yep, don't do anything permanent for quite awhile!!! We always wanted 3 and my dh wanted to have them by the time he was 30. Well the third was born when he was 30 and then he had a vasectomy. 3 yrs later our only son died suddenly. Dh wanted more kids, I agreeed. He had the vasectomy reversed (as Blessed said, not an easy surgery) and thankfully it worked right away. We now have 4 more little boys. Dh still wanted more, though I had to veto it since the dr had said that the chances of both me and a baby surrviving would be extememly slim. My last 4 pregnancies were very, very hard and I am over 40. I agree on IUD's being a great option!
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I will have to give the IUD a try! I dont think I could do anything permanent ever! I would be so sad. I think the fact that we have 3 under the age of 2 is exhausting and the thought of adding another one at any point right now is probably stressful and super overwhelming.Thank you ladies!!!!
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I would LOVE to have another child but dh says no way (we have 2 boys). In fact, a year ago he had a vasectomy because he was so adamant not to have another. It breaks my heart but it's something I'm forced to live with. You are so young - you and your dh have plenty of time to change your mind!