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Ok Ok ladies, I get it. I need to start thinking about myself in a more positive way. I know that....doing it is another thing.
I will try and LOOK in the mirror and say "you look pretty good today". I know it sounds very simplistic but it is VERY hard to do. Even when I am in the salon getting my hair cut, and they stick me facing the mirror I always look down or ask for a magazine. In the mornings when I am getting ready for the day, I brush my teeth walking around the house. I also blow dry my hair upside down....the only time I look in the mirror is to make sure my hair is not sticking straight up. Otherwise, it's blow and go!!
So first thing this morning after my shower I looked in the mirror and said "you look pretty good today". It was hard to do, but I did it. However, I followed up with "you could use an eye brow wax, clearer skin, and your hair colored" but it started out good!!!
I have to stop the negative dialogue. Anyone with me?
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I think it's great that you are doing this. I look in the mirror a lot, but it's never positive. Thanks for the challenge... I'm in!
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I'm just like you Christy. I beat myself up about everything, my looks, the way I keep my house, whether I am a good mom or not, when I see people I wonder if I talk to much or not enough, did I say anything stupid...ugh!
I think it would be a good first step for me to try this too. Maybe just one good thing per day.
BTW. You've posted your picture on here and you are beautiful!
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Good for you Christy,
I am the total opposite, I wake up and say, oh the sleep made my skin clearer! oh I look good with my hair down, look good in this outfit....ect, ect. I am an optimist by nature, so i am always on ahigh and believe I am doing a great job as a mom, I am keeping a house that is clean and well stocked.
What keeps me in prespective is sometimes grounding myself and saying I am a lot better off that the poor people in Africa, who cant even think about wether their hair looks nice, or they have clear skin. Or homeless people who dont ahva home to call their own.
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Quote[/b] (Rakshanda @ July 26 2006,13:19)]Good for you Christy,
I am the total opposite, I wake up and say, oh the sleep made my skin clearer! oh I look good with my hair down, look good in this outfit....ect, ect. I am an optimist by nature, so i am always on ahigh and believe I am doing a great job as a mom, I am keeping a house that is clean and well stocked.
What keeps me in prespective is sometimes grounding myself and saying I am a lot better off that the poor people in Africa, who cant even think about wether their hair looks nice, or they have clear skin. Or homeless people who dont ahva home to call their own.
Someday I hope to be of the same mindset.
Great example Rakshanda.
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Christy I'm a lot like you. I have always been this way and I hate it. My dh always compliments me which is nice but I have a hard time accepting compliments.
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Quote[/b] ]Christy I'm a lot like you. I have always been this way and I hate it. My dh always compliments me which is nice but I have a hard time accepting compliments.
I am the same way. I think many women fall in this trap. I have noticed, however, that when I'm the hardest on myself - I look back in pictures and realize how great I looked. Finally, I said to myself. You know in 10, 20, 30 years I will look back and realize how much time I wasted being hard on myself - being uncomfortable in public - not going swimming for fear of the bathing suit - not being happy when really I looked fine. Taking the 15 minutes a day to look in the mirror and say "I'm a great person, beautiful smile, volumous hair" is really important instead of saying, "Gosh, I look horrible, my teeth are too yellow, and my hair out of control".
I'm with you ladies, i'm ready to take on the challenge.
Originally Posted by [b
Quote[/b] ]What keeps me in prespective is sometimes grounding myself and saying I am a lot better off that the poor people in Africa, who cant even think about wether their hair looks nice, or they have clear skin. Or homeless people who dont ahva home to call their own.
So true. Taking the time to appreciate what we have now instead of wishing we were another way, or we had something different is the best therapy.
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I am reading a book on how to have a better sexual image of myself. One of the steps is to get NAKED in front of the mirror...and see all the good and all the bad..and how much worse that bad could be. I haven't DONE it, yet, but I CAN see how this would make you more comfortable with what you have in a body.
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YEAH!! Go Christy! Maybe you can see yourself as others see you now!
I don't have the best body image, but being so sick to almost die sort of changes your persective. The alternative is not what I am ready for. . . so, I look pretty good.
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Quote[/b] (blessed_with_6 @ July 26 2006,15:06)]*One of the steps is to get NAKED in front of the mirror...and see all the good and all the bad..
would you be here to recessitate me?