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I want to get/make dh a gift for valentine's day.
Here's the thing:
I don't want to spend too much $ ($10 or under)
He doesn't need anything
I don't want to do candy or trinkets - we decluttered and need nothing!
We can't go out that night, babysitter too expensive ($6.50/hour), dh might not even be home
Cooking him a special meal is no big deal to him, even though he appreciates my efforts, he is not a foodie like I am and just eats to live. So special dinners, cakes, cookies, etc. would be 'nice' but not special to him
He's not too romantic (but I don't really mind except on Valentine's day!)
I've gotten him a plant before and he felt really bad when it died - he's too busy at work to water plants
A gift certificate seems too impersonal
What to do? Or should I just give him his card?!
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I make choc covered strawberries and when kids go to bed we have them in front of the fire with glass of wine. no parent talk.
make the food for yourself, he'll be glad your happy.
we have done beer and nachos
played cribbage
made a heart shapped pizza ( i just cut out a heart)
what about a coupon book or a day off of chores
we usually both forget cards
I'm assuming it's just not a big deal to him and you want to have at least one day? my dh is like that but truthfully my dh lucked out b/c valentines day is my mom's bday so I have never looked at it as a romantic day. My dad died early so all my adult life has been about my mom having a nice bday.
I think my dh does better with valentines day when the pressure is off him to "make it special". we plan on buying a heart shapped pizza froma local chain, Boston's (they are donating proceeds to childrens hospital) and having wine after kids go to bed. I almost never get him a gift. just us being alone together and being awake is cake for us. we always send kids to bed 1/2hr early.
HTH,
allgirls
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YOU! That's all you need to give him. I'm with the others, put the kids to bed early and spend time together... that's what I want from my hubby actually!
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..mmmm, sexy underwear? Have a romantic evening with candles and massage oil?
A gift card so he can down load music for an ipod (if he has one).
Make a slide show with pictures to music that he can watch on a DVD.
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I did this last year for Easter, but you could modify it...
I hid plastic eggs around the house and each one had a slip of paper inside. They were all IOUs I knew my husband would love, like:
One uninterrupted basketball game on TV
One homemade lasagna
Cleaning off his desk
A 30-minute backrub
An hour of help in the yard
Maybe you could get a little box of chocolates and put an IOU under each one.
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I'm with you ...
My husband doesn't need anything. We're still in the process of decluttering.
He has been gone on an international business trip for over two weeks. During that time I got very sick and begged him to come home early. He insisted he couldn't and, frankly, I'm a little ticked about that.
He MIGHT be able to make it home on Wednesday but I really won't know until the last minute and at this point I'm not counting on anything. In the meantime, I have to help prepare for DD's V-day party at school, get over this dratted illness, and about 100 other things that didn't get done last week.
I want to do something for hubby. I DO love him and I DO appreciate how hard he has been working. As bad as last week has been for me, it was pretty rough on him, too.
I'm thinking I will do a couple of things...
1) Take the pressure off of him to do anything outlandish for ME on V-day. Quite frankly, anything would be lame at this point although I'm pretty sure he'll send flowers and charge them to the company. OK, that I'm willing to have him do.
2) Send him an e-mail that says how much I appreciate him and how we miss him and can't wait to have him home again.
3) When he does come home, take him for some nice, simple activity - a walk along the river maybe. And yes, DD will be going to bed early.
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Is there anything he's been wanting - but not wanting to spend the $$ on? If he's not been getting coffee each day, but would like it - (for example) that might be a good gift card idea.
Or a gift card for something more expensive that you start for him - and encourage/help put a few dollars toward when you can.
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A few years back when I was busy with young kids I didn't have the time or the energy to go buy anything so I sat down and wrote a note. I told him how proud I was of him. I thanked him for working so hard to support our family. I told him specific things about what made him a great Dad and a wonderful husband and I told him I'd marry him all over again if I had the chance.
Well, let me tell you .... he cried through the whole thing! And then he said it was the best Valentines gift he had ever received. He never knew I felt that way. He said he never knew that I was proud of him and it's all he ever needs in life. Now each year we don't give any gifts, flowers or chocolate but we each write a note that is better than any other gift we've given each other.
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Originally Posted by KathrynHannah
A few years back when I was busy with young kids I didn't have the time or the energy to go buy anything so I sat down and wrote a note. I told him how proud I was of him. I thanked him for working so hard to support our family. I told him specific things about what made him a great Dad and a wonderful husband and I told him I'd marry him all over again if I had the chance.
Well, let me tell you .... he cried through the whole thing! And then he said it was the best Valentines gift he had ever received. He never knew I felt that way. He said he never knew that I was proud of him and it's all he ever needs in life. Now each year we don't give any gifts, flowers or chocolate but we each write a note that is better than any other gift we've given each other.
All the suggestions were great, but this one won out!! Thank you!! That almost made Me cry!
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The last one was great-My DH and I decided we wouldn't buy anything-definitely a challenge for us-I am planning to make him a grade school valentine, with the "I love yous" on it-and hope to meet up after the kids are tucked in bed. He'll definitely want that!