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Has anyone here had invetro? How did you deal with the emotions regarding it? Were you successful? If so, how many attempts did you have before a successful conception?
The reason that I ask is that I honestly don't know if I am emotionally strong enough to get invetro, knowing that the chances of conception are not statistically high. I would love to hear from other moms that have had invetro - whether you had a successful conception or not. Please share your story.
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Rachel,
There are a few steps before you have to go that far. How long have you and dh actually been trying?
You my friend must relax and take it one step at a time. IF you have been trying for over 6 months you should make an appointment with a fertility specialist for you and your dh. When dh and I went that route we just listened to my Obgyn and went to a Urologist BIG mistake. He just kept taking our money with a wash and spin sperm cycle and inseminating me month after month and it was devastating getting a period month after month. We started researching and found a great fertiility team in our area. He did further tests (air through tubes and a dye test) tests on dh. His conclusion was putting me on fertility pills. you know what both times I did that with a wash and spin of dhs sperm it worked! We starting trying to have babies right away after we said I Will at the altar in 1992 we had ds1 Evan in 2001! Get your opinions find a good place and go from there! I would hate to see you go through the heartache I did really Year after Year. Bottom line there may be many steps before even thinking of Invitro. I will send up a prayer for you that it just happens naturally. Good luck!
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I did not go through invitro but my sister did. And I am very close with my sister. She went through it for very very different reasons(but that is a WHOLE other thread, probably a whole other forum! )
Anyway, their whole process lasted about 1 1/2 before they finally got pregnant. She went through the hormones the jumping from different scrips and so on. And the emotions are very high. It is emotionally and physically draining. I right now am still at the very beginning stages of planning her 2nd baby. I will be carrying it for her if everything goes well. (They may decide to just try and adopt instead we will see) So within the next year we may be starting the whole process. I wish you good luck and I think momof2boys said it well, take your time and do not rush into it. Get several opinions and make the very best choice for the two of you.
Big hugs and sending prayers your way! :love: Hugs
Sonja
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3lynnes, You are obviosuly an awesome person to help your sister like that! Good luck to all of you.
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Originally Posted by 3lynns
I right now am still at the very beginning stages of planning her 2nd baby. I will be carrying it for her if everything goes well. (They may decide to just try and adopt instead we will see)
Wow, I wish I was as strong as you are to do this. I don't think I could give the baby up, but I guess I don't really have anyone that I am super close to who would ask either. Good luck with either option your family chooses for the 2d baby!
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I have several good friends that have done it. I am 36 and I live in a big city and know a bunch of women that have been through various fertility treatments with a lot of success. I have 2 friends that had twins as a result of the first round of in vitro (they both did less invasive fertility stuff for a year or two before they ended up doing in vitro). Both sets were boys. One of those women went on to have a baby girl with no fertility a few years later. I know another woman that had a boy on her first try with in vitro after years of trying everything else and then she ended up pregnant on her own when that baby was only 17 months! She is having a girl next month. I have a good friend that went through it 3 times and the third time was a charm for them. The first 2 she did conceive but lost both around 15 weeks. She had a tough time but was determined to have another baby (she got pg on her own woth their oldest). I only know one woman that it didn't work for at all and she is in the process of adopting a baby girl from China that should be here any week now. It has been a long 5 year road for her but she is older (41) and she is tough. Her marriage has been strained for years over this. But it has a happy ending so I am pleased to say that out of all my friends that have wanted a baby, they have ALL gotten a baby! I have another good friend that adopted a baby through a private adoption which was expensive but took less than a year. A year later they called her back and the teenaged birth mom was pg again with another girl and they wanted to know if they wanted to adopt her too. Of course they said yes. So really, good stories all around.