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My oldest dd is very sensitive, feelings get hurt easily. If it's hereditary she gets it from me. I read a book this week about sensitve kids and it mentioned these kids can also be sensitive about clothes and stimuli. This fits her to a tee. She hates to wear jeans, is picky about how her underwear and socks fit. I thought this was interesting because I had never connected the two.
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I was extremely sensitive (feelings anyway) and I still am. I've never had that other stimuli sensitivity, though. My oldest son has both, though.
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That is my daughter exactly. She is 4 and can cry at the drop of a hat, hates socks - all socks, hates her jeans. Every morning is fight about clothes; not what looks good or anything, but the way they feel.
What is the name of the book?
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Originally Posted by Shannon
That is my daughter exactly. She is 4 and can cry at the drop of a hat, hates socks - all socks, hates her jeans. Every morning is fight about clothes; not what looks good or anything, but the way they feel.
What is the name of the book?
The Sensitive Child by Janet Poland
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Thanks for the info on the book. Both my kids are sensitive. I never connected the feelings with the clothes. I will have to check it out.
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My son is like that, and he was a high need baby. I'm like that, too. You probably have a child with Sensory Integration Disorder. If you join us in the Special Needs forum, you will find that it is pretty common! There is another book that I was led to by a lot of people and wholeheartedly recommend it: The Out of Sync Child. It was one of the first ones I read, and I was like AHA! It was such a relief to read how others coped and that this stuff is real! You will find a lot of support here for it. My son is now six, and he still has issues. But thanks to research, and just observation, I know why he acts certain ways (a loud room is too much for him, and for me!), what is setting him on edge (flickering flourescents, itchy shirt) and how to help calm him.
Your child, due to this, may qualify for Occupational Therapy through the school. It will be educationally based, though and any non-educational goals will come from you or outside therapy. I am actually meeting w/my child's OT at school to learn about brushing therapy. She uses it and has taught his teacher how to use it. Now she's going to teach me as we go over his IEP. My son didn't like massages as a baby, but loves back rubs now. He didn't have the patience to just lie there, so it's interesting that he likes the brushing and that they report it works! Hang on for the ride!
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my dd is emotionally sensitive. it doesn't take much for her to cry, but it is even worse when she is tired.
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I read The Highly Sensitve Child by Elaine Aron. It helped me understand oldest DS's sensitivity to noise, clothes, etc. He has learned to deal with it very well now at the age of 10. But, I can remember the days when I wondered if we'd ever make it through all the tears! I would get so frustrated with everyone telling me it was my fault he was acting that way. They blamed it on my breastfeeding him or "babying" him. Ugh! If they had only read the book, too . . . .
But, part of what makes them sensitive, also makes them some of the most loving, generous, intelligent, compassionate children I've ever known!
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My ds is very sensitive as well. He did indeed have a lot of the traits (I'm assuming the book your read was The Sensitive Child, I read it too): the clothing, not liking movement - ds Never liked being 'fooled around with' even when a baby - like holding them and swinging, and he still does not like it when someone does it to Their baby either, even if the baby appears to like it. He is very cautious (I'm not complaining here) and also he is very sensitive to body positions where he is vulnerable - like the dentist's chair. He cannot tolerate being tipped back the way they do (I'm actually going to post this question in Chit Chat for more exposure).
However, I have to say that he's sort of grown out of the clothing thing. He hated tags, would only wear the same type of shirts, etc., but has sort of grown out of that.
I am very sensitive too, which is a mixed blessing. I dwell on a lot, but I also think I have a good heart and try to treat others the way I would like to be treated.