Ask:
Would you rather have your child be a bench warmer on a winning team or a player on a losing team?
I will tell you my answer and reason for asking the question after I hear some responses.
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Player on a losing team. It stinks to go and watch a long say baseball game and have your kid play 1 inning! It definitely teaches winning isn't everything and usually the coaches
try and make it more about having fun and learning to get better. My dss was always on losing soccer, baseball and football teams, unfortunately. Finally last yr in 8th grade he was on a championship baseball team and now plays for freshman baseball.
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playing on a losing team. You spend a lot of money on sports and donations, and time with consessions, etc... and if my ds or dd, only sat on the bench, it would be frustrating to say the least, even if they did win all the time. Also, I would hope that even if the team is a losing team...they dont' lose every game, so I agree it teaches both winning and losing. Plus that is the whole point of signing up, to play and have fun right?? I guess when you get into high school it is much more competitive. But at that level if you are going to be a bench warmer, you don't make the team. Just my random thoughts here...hope it made sense.
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This is really a hard question for me, I am a coach for my daughters softball team and I am dealing with this right now. We had a mom who pulled her daughter off of our team and said it was because she didnt feel that our team was up to her daughters potential. I am a first time coach so I got the team with the youngest girls and the most inexperience. We have not started our games yet but I have watched the other teams and know that we are gonna have to really play hard and work hard, but I know that my kids are haveing a good time and are learning a lot as first time players. We may not win every game but I also know that I am taking the time to teach my girls the fundamentals of the game so that next year they will be awesome. I would rather my daughter learn to play the game and see some action then sit on a bench and watch everyone else play. I think that sometimes when you have an allstar team the coaches forget the new player because they are so busy with the stars.
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Now, my take on the situation! My dd had her first volleyball tournament this weekend with her new team. At her old school, my dd was one of 2or 3 girls that was always rotated out. The team won most of their matches. DD was not unhappy with her role on the team. Alot of the girls on the team were prima donna and were very upset and crying if they lost a game or even if they won, but they missed a shot!!! DD was always disgusted by this as it is not her personality at all. All and all, there was always alot of drama on this team.
Her new team is made up of 4 8th graders and 4 7th graders (dd is in 8th grade), alot of the girls are in their 1st year of volleyball and the team has some raw talent, but it is very raw! DD played the entire day. They played 11 games and won one. Their attitude was remarkable and not what I am used to at all! The first game they lost 20 to nothing and the girls were all still happy and having fun!! I love it!!! They did play much better after the 1st game, but as I said, only managed to win one game. But I would much rather have my daughter on the team she is on now!!!!
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I would ef say That Id want my dd to play!! its about TEAM work not an idividual!!
my nephews are on teams of soccer that seem to have BOTH!!! no kid sits on the bench uness they are not feeling well or they WANT to!! But they are still encouraged to play!!!
they win not because they are the best they win cause they are having fun and WORK as a
TEAM!! I think its soo imp for kids to learn team work and enjoy what they are doing!!!
Good for you for letting your kid enoy the sport!!!
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It's not always about winning. My sons first season of soccer was sooooooo funny to watch. The other teams always dominated but our kids did their best and worked hard. They lost but the coach was very fair about letting everyone play and giving all of them the encouragement they needed.
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I completely misread your post.
My edited response is this:
I think I would want my kids to be on a losing team, but one that they are actually able to play and not sit all the time.
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Depends on the level.
Some teams are audition-only, especially as they get more skilled. If so, I would want my child up to the task. I wouldn't want them to take my child then bench her.
When she's not playing at that level, then everyone should play - fair and square.
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Definately on the losing team but getting to play. My son was on a team once where he sat on the bench many innings. He hated it. When I talked to his coach, he said that was the way it was going to be and that was that. My son quit the next week and hasn't returned to the sport since. He didn't care about winning, he just wanted to play.