Ask:
How would you feel if your ex invited your "new" children to play with their kids at their house?? Or visa versa, would you invite your ex's children over to play with your kids??
(I am not in this situation, just posing the question for opinions)
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I am not divorced, but my parents were. I had my half-sister over all the time for sleep-overs and stuff. My mom never minded, even though it was my dad's "new" daughter. We were always very close, and still are. And sometimes when I went to my dad's, my little brother would go with me, even though it was my mom's "new" son. We are all grateful for that now that we are older.
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A divorced friend of mine ex-husband would babysit his kids along with my friends children from her second marriage every Monday while her and her new dh would go bowling! I think if he had other children it would not have been a big deal to hang out. I imagine part of it would depend on well the ex spouses got along.
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I think it is a great idea for the families to do that. Just because mom n dad dont work out doesnt mean the kids should suffer and if they have siblings at whoevers house why should those kids be penalized because of past problems. If they are half siblings and they play a role in everyones lives then why shouldnt they get to go to who evers house. I am not divorced but see nothing wrong with this at all.
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I think it is great. The kids don't have anything to do with it. They are just innocent bystanders. They love everyone and don't need that conflict on top of it. I'm not divorced but I know I wouldn't have a problem with it. IMO.... It is best if you can be a big happy family. My Aunt and Uncle are divorced. They have a daughter together and then my uncle has a son with his girlfriend. They had their issues at first but never ever in front of the kids. Now they are best of friends. The go out on the weekends together, spend every holiday together, summer vacations, christmas morning at my aunts house. My Aunt babysits their son all of the time. I think they are going the best thing for the kids. Just think of the example that they are setting for their children. I really admire them for this..
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I agree that it's a great idea, if it can be done. It's really showing the kids maturity and how to get along w/others, plus not making the kids suffer because the adults don't play well together. Kids get caught in the middle so often, and I know, especially from experience, that often, when the New Kids, either step or half sibs come along, the "old news" kids are often made to feel they no longer belong but have nowhere else to go. Oh stop! It's making me tear up.
HAPPYFRIDAY!
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This is all very interesting. I can honestly say that I don't think that I would have a problem with it, but I am not in those shoes.
My children from my first marriage are older and don't really "play" with the baby. so I can't see the baby ever being over at my ex's house, plus they are here most of the time anyway.
However, I can see my dh have an issue with his daughter being over at my ex's house. So, I know it will never happen.
But I think my case is a little different because of the huge age difference. When the "big kids" are at their Dad's it is their time with him. And they are very involved with the baby when they are here.
In addition, my ex and his new wife do not have any children that are "theirs". She does not have any children, as this was her first marriage.
This is all interesting though.