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I've decided this weekend that I am ready to start dating again. I've been divorced for 3.5 years and my ex has been remarried for a year now after dating about 10 candidates. I, on the other hand, haven't even been out on one date! I have all of the men magnet qualities like I'm a teacher with two teenage boys living with me and spend all of my time not in school at the baseball parks for my boys. Now who wouldn't be attracted to that?! Of course I am being sarcastic! If a man even looks my direction my 12 year old is quick to point out that he needs to mind his own business and stop looking at me. I'm not unattractive or anything, and have a good body. Believe it or not though, those qualities don't make it any easier. I am not very big on dating and never was. My ex is the second person I ever dated and the only person I have ever had sex with. Yes, I know it all sounds pretty pathetic, but I wasn't raised to attract someone with my chest instead of my honest nature. So, basically, I am at a total loss! After you all finish laughing, I would appreciate some suggestions!
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You will find that nobody will laugh at you here. You have really put yourself out there, with this request for advice, and I hope someone who has been through it can help you out. I have not experienced divorce, so since I have never walked in your shoes, I don't feel qualified to give advice. Just please know that you are welcome to ask ANYTHING here, and you don't have to worry about getting laughed out. (Okay, well, if you do something silly that you want to share, then maybe we'd laugh WITH you, but never AT you.)
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Believe me, I'm not worried about being laughed at. I've had too much happen to me in my lifetime to be embarrassed over something like this. I would be in serious trouble if I had not been able to keep my sense of humor over the past few years. I just don't even know where to start! When I have a weekend to myself it's catch up on sleep, laundry, and housework time. Sounds glamorous, huh?
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Wow, that is a big step! That is great that you are ready for this. There are so many things that you can do.
Where is Lou...she should chime in here....
There is the internet...and even if you don't meet anyone in person, you can just get comfortable with talking to the opposite sex. EHarmony is very good, and they run specials all the time.
My favorite is going to a coffee shop or book store, hang out and read....see if you see anyone interesting, and it is okay if you start up the converation. You don't have to wait for them to approach you.
There is single events through most Churches.
There is Speed Dating....this is another good one just to get you comfortable with talking to the opposite sex. You only have three min. and you go through 10-15 people. You never know, you might just connect with one of them.
Ok, can anyone think of anything else??
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Do you see what an easy topic this is? You are the only person who even had any ideas because no one even likes to think about having to date again! I don't have time to go to bookstores and am in fear of online dating services because I would die if any of my students found my profile on a dating site! I am considering getting my real estate license through online courses and selling real estate during the summer. I have always been interested in houses and think it would give me a good opportunity to meet other people. My dad's property is also for sale and my sister is the executor of his estate, so technically I could sell the property myself if I had my license.
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I have the members mixed up, so sorry ladies....it is lamby248 that just went through this...here is a link to her thread
read through this...maybe you will get some other ideas.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help for ya!!
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Online dating never worked out for me. The guys were not who they advertised themselves to be or they were not looking for what they claiimed they wanted in their ad. I was frustrated and annoyed having paid so much money to have such a horrible time so after a year I gave up. All the "hot spots" to meet guys didn't work for me, I was short on time and I am too shy to initiate contact. I eventually found some personal ads on a local home page (that allowed you to place them for free) I met a wonderful guy who like me "appreciates the cheaper things in life." We are best friends and partners for life.
Out of curiousity I went on a couple of the web sites to see what local guys were on there... its been 4 yrs since I tried it. A lot of the same ones I saw and the few that I met were still there looking for that "special someone." I wasn't surprised one bit.