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Here's a spin-off to my own thread... do you snoop through your kids' rooms while they are gone?? Have you found anything out that was helpful, like hidden angst written in a diary, or drug paraphernalia, or birth control, or other surprises?
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My older son is 12. I do not snoop in his room but I do try to stay aware of what is going on with him, his friends etc He's a good kid and he does tell me things, so I'm lucky in that aspect. I haven't been in a situation with him where I felt like I needed to snoop...I'm not sure how I feel about that, I can see both sides of it.
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Having been through 4 teenaged children already, I now reserve the right to snoop whenever I want. I could write a book about the troubles I've seen. I'm very careful to not reveal my sources, however. That just makes them better at hiding things.
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I believe every good parent who thinks they might have a problem going on - snoops.
Children may have a right to their privacy or whatever....but kids have a right to have parents who care and I am all about doing what it takes to make sure my kids are O.K.
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I agree about the right to snoop. I will make an effort to keep my own curiosity in check, but if there's any hint of a reason to be concerned about something, I'll look. OK, and if Adam leaves out one of his notes that a girl sent him, in plain open sight on his dresser, I'll read it. The whole thing.