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Ok, I know that so many have very hard lives, lives I would not even want to know. I know I am lucky to have so much and I know I am blessed with a good life, great DS and having a DH that provides for us.
However, can I have myself a pity party. Three weeks ago I went to Disneyland not because I had a desire to go but DH was going on spring break with his college friends to Alaska to ski. I am good with it and don't mind as having DS is very stressful. However I had no respite because everyone was on spring break and they all left also. So, when I got home we were tired and it was raining the entire weekend, so DS and I were stuck in the house for two days, alone. I love Hunter so much but he is a handful and I am old.
Then this weekend I woke up Friday very sick with a fever and cold. DH says wow you're sick you should take a Tylenol! Our Friday person called and wanted to do something with her boyfriend and wasn't coming to work. Ok, so back to Hunter and I alone, this time I am sick and DH is going to Big Sky to see his college friend who he just say in Alaska to ski again.
So with the chore list in hand so far I have gone to hunt down wooden pallets, load said pallets in truck, unloaded pallets, cleaned out lead to, layed pallets down, drained all 5 snowmachines of gas, put stable in tanks, got one sled started on onto pallets. Then I harrowed over 2 acres of our paddock and pasture on our property, took several hours, then I burned the borrow pit, for city folks it is the part that goes from the road down to the property usually overgrown with dead grass. The pit fire jumped, went into my neighbors willows and I had to call the fire dept. They guy went to get out of the fire truck and blew out his knee, they called the ambulance. So two fire trucks, one ambulance and willows on fire there we stood, myself, my elderly mom and Hunter. Called the neighbor told him I burnt his willows, he said good he wanted the dead burnt out. Friends, these are not nice willow trees but more like bushes of weeds that grow along water.
Today, I am still sick and want to finish the chores so we screen two windows, sweep the garage, feed the horses, vacuum the house and I go back to burning. We own 43 acres and I went to the next piece of property to burn the willows on purpose and the pit. We recently rented the trailer and this is about 1000 feet from the trailer but the renter comes out and screams at me for starting the fires. Ok, it is my property, burning is how it is done out here. We rather burn it down and be there than have it start on accident. It was going well but he uncorked on me about the fire, he was sleeping, I ruined his weekend with his kids, on and on. Ok, now I am in tears, I put out all fires that were doing great burning down the dead. He is still screaming at me about the what I have done, I should have told him first, on and on.
Friends, I am not use to having renters and I think I should have told him first, I give him that but he could have helped me instead of screaming. So he yells he wants my husband when he gets home. No shit so do I!!! I call husband in tears and he yells at me too! Did I say I am sick, working with Hunter, no help and I am getting yelled at.
Ok, that is my pity party, but wait, I went out to finish the garage and Hunter says he has to go yuck, I say go inside while I finish. I come in and he says he is tired. I put him in bed open the window and finish the garage.
I came in and see water all over the kitchen floor. The bathroom door is closes and I hear water.....again. This time he flooded my bathroom by using the sink. Again it went down the heat vent and under the walls. Have you ever wondered why manufactured homes don't have second drains at the top??? So I have cleaned up the floor, have the boy sleeping, I am going to crawl under the house to take apart the heat vent and release the water and then I am going to have a DRINK.
Oh yeah, did I say that I am also sick with a sinus cold??
My pity party.
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Honey I am so sorry, you have every right to be upset. Sorry your dh and not dear is being so selfish. I hope your feeling better and are able to get some rest soon. Sending lots of hugs your way.
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Oh boy, that IS bad. What are you doing working so hard while sick? It can wait until you're better. And burning with sinus issues? You cwazy wabbit!
Heck, I would have made dh stay home. There's no reason he had to go. He needs to stay and help. Especially when someone he loves is sick. Yeah, take a Tylenol...geesh!
And w/the one w/the boyfriend. A job is a job and she is relied on! Sweetie, you do need to stand up for yourself. You deserve better!
When dh gets home, he is to take ds out and do something fun w/him while mommy gets a nice warm bath and gets to sleeeeeeeep! And heal.
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Honey....you DESERVE a pity party. First off, I don't know...your dh may be a wonderful man, but I think it was inconsiderate of him to leave you to go off with a friend when he'd just been with friends (including that one) and leaving you alone sick. A more considerate person would have cancelled his plans to take care of Hunter so you could get better instead of telling you to take a "tylenol"....geez.
Secondly, I'd have said...fine. I'm sick and so if you're going off playing this wknd, the chores just won't get done. There is NO WAY I'd have drug myself out sick doing all that stuff you did while my dh was off "skiing with friends". Give me a break.
When he gets home, crawl into the bed and tell him to don't want to see or hear from anyone until Mon morning.
Hope you feel better soon.
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I hope you are feeling better!!! I get stressed when DH is gone for his normal stretch and that is his job!!! There would be a huge dent in my frying pan if he went off and left me to do all that you just did (and sick to boot!) I can't manage my tiny .25 acre lot and small home- let alone be out burning pits, taking vents apart, screening windows and caring for horses - not to mention yourself and child.
You deserve a pity party- and then some!!!
Hope your sinus cold has passed!!!
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Oh my goodness, if anyone needs a pity party it is you after that awful day! I may think twice about whining and crying when things aren't going my way in the future! You gave me some perspective.
Now, about you, you really do need to rest and stop doing so much! DH should have been helping and I hope that he realizes that. Your load is large enough for two...
Are you feeling any better now? Hopefully you get some sleep and begin to fight off that sinus thing. And Desertmom is right.... no burning with a sinus condition, you cwazy wabbit!
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Originally Posted by aliadam
Honey....you DESERVE a pity party. First off, I don't know...your dh may be a wonderful man, but I think it was inconsiderate of him to leave you to go off with a friend when he'd just been with friends (including that one) and leaving you alone sick. A more considerate person would have cancelled his plans to take care of Hunter so you could get better instead of telling you to take a "tylenol"....geez.
Secondly, I'd have said...fine. I'm sick and so if you're going off playing this wknd, the chores just won't get done. There is NO WAY I'd have drug myself out sick doing all that stuff you did while my dh was off "skiing with friends". Give me a break.
When he gets home, crawl into the bed and tell him to don't want to see or hear from anyone until Mon morning.
Hope you feel better soon.
I couldn't have said it better myself! Let me tell you, I've had an icky sinus cold since last weekend, and up until yesterday, I'd kept the dishes done, the kids fed, and did one load of laundry. That, in itself, was exhausting enough! Of course, now I'm playing catch-up, but still! I hope you're feeling better. Take care of yourself before YOU end up in the hospital!
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Yep, i would say you deserve that drink and the pity party. HUGS!
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you certainly deserve a pity party, when do you get a weekend for yourself, since you have gotten everything done!
Bless your heart for pushing on & getting it done,I wouldn't have done it, especially being sick & without dh's help.
I hope you feel better soon
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YES!!! I have OFTEN, OFTEN wondered why there is no top drain in manufactured homes...MORE than ONCE!!!
And they're all right...you deserve far more than a pity party. You deserve a medal!!!