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This is my first post ever and I feel like I just need a little reassurance. My daughter turned 1 a few weeks ago and I am still nursing. Does it bother me?? No. We are both addicted and need to go to nursing rehab. Is this okay? My doctor (a man of course) said that it is between she and I whether or not I quit nursing. She is still nursing until she falls asleep...I know a big NO NO. Also, did I mention...she sleeps with us a night. These are things that I SWORE up and down that I would not do. But after 5 years of infertility and having this beautiful baby in my arms...all of the "I would never do that" comments went down the drain. Why do I find myself questioning everything that I do? Is this going to last my whole life?
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ah, she's your kid. Do what you want. My diva is 20 mos. and still nursing. It's our choice. I nursed my son until he was three. I'm TRYING to cut down so she only nurses at bedtime and in the morning first thing, but....
There's plenty of time to stop. It's not doing her harm, and while I am having issues with it, I'm not ready to force her yet.
Some know it alls say it makes the child clingy. Hah! Not mine! My son was always independent. And now that she's getting social, she just looks occasionally to see if I'm still around, but is ready to be off with her friends. It's really and individual choice, and the "experts" now say to nurse until it is no longer desirable for those involved.
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My ds was 2 when he quit nsg, and he didn't want to then. I was just worn out and said on his 2nd bday, today's the last day. So just go ahead and nurse her as long as you want. It's actually good for her. As far as the sleeping, if it's okay with you & dh, I don't know why anyone else should bother. I'm sure at some point she'll stop. Just enjoy your sweet baby and don't worry.
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AND, since there are so many judgemental people out there about it, there's no reason to tell anyone else. No justifying needed. Enjoy baby and toddlerhood. You'll know when it's time to stop. God gave you instincts for a reason.
By the way, little diva sleeps w/me, too. DH is with ds, which is good during ds' needy time, because there's just not enough room w/little diva moving around. Last night she woke up w/a bad dream. She was scared and shaking. I'm glad I was right there with no delay. However, she loves her brother's room and bed, so we are going to be getting her room ready. She'll probably be like my son and choose to sleep in there on her own when it's ready.
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i nursed both my boys for over a year! Oh and yes the oldest one slept with us most of the time. Dont worry about what others say its your child!
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I let mine self ween. Unfortunately then weened early. I was more than happy to continue. First one was 14 months(only bedtime), second was 11 months and last one was 9months. I had to force the last one to continue that long. she went from nursing to regular food.
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You are doing JUST fine!!! I nursed #2 till she was 14 mo and #3 is 10 months now and still going strong. We co-sleep too! They are only little ONCE!!!
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Welcome to the board by the way!
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Honey, most of us have been there, second guessing every move with out kids, essp when everyone else seems to be doing it too. I nursed my ds till he was about 2.5 old, and I heard it CONSTANTLY! From my mom, to my mil, even my own dh!! But he was my 3rd and last kid, I wasn't gonna let anyone else bother me about it so I just did it and didn't let to get to me.
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I appreciate the words of encouragement. Sometimes it just feels good to hear it from someone that has been there.