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With my youngest about to turn one in the next month I am starting to get that "oh what it would be like to hold a newborn again" feeling. I don't think that I want another child right now, but with the agreement between DH and I that we are done having kids I am starting to feel sad that this is it.... We are done with the excitement of finding out that we are pregnant, done with welcoming a new little miracle in to the world, done with all of the new things that a newborn brings.
In my mind I am saying that it is the best not to have anymore (or maybe DH brainwashed me ) but my heart is telling me that I want more.
So, for those of you that are actually "done" having children....Does the want in your heart EVER go away?
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I had Ds #2 in December, and got my tubes cut and tied. There will be no more babies from me. I think about it sometimes, but in all honesty, I really don't want to have another one. I love having our 2 boys and Dh's 2 girls (part time). I get more upset and scared when I think about having another one. For me though, it was a health risk to have another after Ds#2 and that helped me. Financially, we are at our child bearing limit, and that's ok with me. I firmly believe every woman is different on this one. I pray that no matter what comes for you, and the decisions you make with having another one or not that God will make it easy on your heart.
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I don't know. I'm starting to think no, it doesn't. We had 2 boys....16 months apart and I said we were done. 3 years later we hadn't done anything to make that decision permanent and we both started talking about 1 more. 2 months later I was pregnant. Then, being that there's 4 years between #2 and #3 we decided that "just one more".....I'm due in September and that will make #3 and #4 only 14 months apart in age. We're happy, but I don't know if physically my body could handle any more pregnancies, so DH will be going in to make our decision semi-permanent before this one gets here.
Ok, so that really doesn't answer your question, but maybe helps a little???
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Nope - not yet. Which is why neither of us are "fixed." I know it would be crazy for me to have a fourth, but that doesn't make me not want one. Those little faces, tiny hands.....yum yum yum. I just love them!
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For me it did....DH and I went back and forth about a 3rd for awhile but decided to go ahead and have the big V. We went to Jersey a few weekends ago and I saw my best friends 5 month old and I held her and snuggled her and then....was happy to hand her back to her parents. I knew then and there we definitely made the right decision for us.
I'm sure that wasn't a big help, but you'll know when you know (again...not a big help sorry )
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My youngest is 6. We're done but the want is still there everyday. I'm not sure it's ever going to go away.
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As a mom of six.....I can say that THIS heart is not ever going to be ready to say the words, "We're done having children".
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I get that feeling every once in a while. My girls are 23 months apart and I do want another but not just yet. Maybe in a year.
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As an only child who has an only child, I can only tell you what to do that is in your heart and your brain. I have always known I've only wanted one child. That's all I've ever known. But when I am packing away DD's little onsies and little booties, I get an ache, like maybe I do want one more. But once the goodies are put away, I am just thankful for my one healthy, happy one and can't imagine it any other way.
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I'd love for that feeling to go away. My youngest is going to be 5 this summer and starts kindergarten in the fall. I talk about it occasionally but DH and both think it would be foolish to start over again.