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How did you know two was right for you?? Did you ever have the urge to have more? I still would like one more, but I have a boy, 4 years and a girl, 21 months. My girl is a handful and summer activities are costing a fortune. I am beginning to think two is enough and maybe just stop here. I have started selling off some of my baby stuff, but have decided not to make it permenant and get fixed at this time. Just some thoughts from you ladies........Thanks
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I have 2 girls here- one is 10 the other is 3. We once in awhile will talk about having a third (to try for that boy)- but our luck would be me having twin girls (twins run rampid in my family). We go by that typical saying- if a third happens- it happens, we are taking percausions- but we were using percautions with our first one! Anyways- we talk about it and then come to our senses that we can't afford another one (even though we probably could) and we don't have the space for another one (but then again if it were to happen- we could make the space). I have gotten rid of most of my youngest baby things (saved some of the cute clothes to hand down to her (like first outfit and so on- only about 5 outfits). I figure if the 3rd comes around- I can just pick up stuff cheaply through craiglist and so on.
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We knew we were done when we had two. It wasn't any one reason.
I had really bad morning sickness both times. I was only going to have 1 but then dd came along (I was on the pill)
I had a terrible (nearly didn't survive it) bout of postpartum depression after my 2nd and I was afraid it might happen again.
I knew that going to a 3rd meant getting a minivan and the kids having to share a room. Not that there is anything wrong with sharing, it just that I it wouldn't seem fair if one shared with the 3rd and the other didn't.
I knew that if I had a 3rd, I'd want a 4th to avoid the middle child thing. (Not that there is anything wrong being a middle child - some of the most amazing people I know are middle children but there is a stigma to it)
We didn't want to be outnumbered.
We were living in South Asia where there was a strict two child policy and we wanted to follow the customs of where we were living. (We had to return because of ds's special needs so we could have had more later but the door had been permanently closed if you kwim.)
I still get the craving for a 3rd or more. But I know in my heart that we made the right choice. There is something deep within me though that is sort of glad that dh is the one who got 'fixed'. If anything ever happened to him and I re-married, I would to have more kids, esp. as mine are getting so much older now.
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We have two boys and i still can't say that i'm done. For sanity reasons we should be but i just can't come to the place where i can say No More.
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I have 2 boys, and I have just recently decided that we are done. For the longest time, I still wanted another one, but we just don't have the money. We are going to start building our house this summer, and my youngest starts school in the fall. So next year I will be going to work. I can't afford to stay home for 6 more years, which is what I would want to do if I had another baby!
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I have 2 girls 10 and 4....we was only going to have one but decided that I didn't want her to be alone when we pass away and so we tried when she was 4 to have another one but with out luck we lost 3 then my Kacee is a total miracle...so we most definately only wanted 2...lol....just like the even number...we are not outnumbered....lol...even though sometimes it soooo feels like we are....lol...then just getting my baby in school...I forsure don't want to start over...lol
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We have our 2 boys, and Dh has 2 girls. I knew that my boy #2 would be the last one for several reasons. #1 Financially supporting 4 kids 5 and under is ENOUGH! #2 I had to have csections with both of mine and my doctor told me that my uterus was too weak to support another baby, and I wouldn't carry to term #3 When I had Ds #2 my HEART just told me that was it. I am very happy with 2 and honestly can say I'm at peace.
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Thanks Ladies, it is so nice to hear your stories. Sometimes I feel alone in only having two, but if I look around, lots of people only have two. We could support another baby, if we wanted. We could make space if we wanted. My hubby says I am crazy, since we ARE crazy already with two. Most people say I am crazy for wanting a third, since I have the perfect family...a girl and a boy...that makes me crazy. There is no such definition as perfect family. All families are special no matter what the makeup. I am glad to hear that some of you have given away all the baby stuff. I think that not doing anything pemenant is the right choice and getting rid of the baby stuff is okay...thanks for the craigslist tip. Take care ladies...and thanks again....
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We stopped at 2...I knew two were enough when my son was born on our daughters 3rd birthday and the Dr's were saying "it could happen again". Both of my children were born on the same day March 13th and are exactly 3 years apart. Both of them were natural deliveries. Now they are 14 and 11.
Blessings,
Karen
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We have 2 girls and well I dont know if we are done!! we are talking about #3 but cannot right now as I am in a wedding in August and I get really sick while being preggo!! so I want to enjoy my BF wedding!! Soo maybe after that!! plus dd who is a handful will be in kindy next year!! and things will calm down!! my kids are 5 and 7!!!