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I'm totally overwhelmed. It's making me so mean and miserable. I have a nasty cold, my house is a disaster. I've been running someone somewhere every minute or here making meals. My dh is working a ton so he's really not here and when he is, there are other things he needs to do. Yesterday, I yelled at my son because he wouldn't concentrate on his homework. He was exhausted and it was beautiful outside, of course, he couldn't concentrate on it. I hate when I yell at them. I can feel the nasty tone in my voice when I talk to dh. I feel mad at everyone and I don't want to feel like this. And yes, it is probably pms, but I HATE IT. There must be a way to not feel like this
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You sound like me a few weeks ago. With me it was the fact that the meds had not only quit working that I was already on for stress, they were working against me, too! They swapped me to a new one, and I cannot tell you how much better I feel already. I hope YOU feel better soon.
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I'm so glad you are feeling better.
I know this will pass. There are so many things that I should be doing, but I don't know how to get them all done. Today, I am making dinner for my aunt who just had back surgery. My dh's mom is still in the hospital from her stroke and decided last night to try to get out of bed and fell. She's okay, but I should get up there to see her too. The laundry is behind, I don't have the summer cloths out yet, it's garbage day, I need to vaccume..... OMG!!!!
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BREATHE!!! Sounds like you have a case of taking on too much. That is why I started the housecleaning challenges. If you break things up in timed increments, it isn't so overwhelming. Give yourself five minutes to run a quick vaccum. Take a five minute break. Give yourself ten minutes to go fold and PUT AWAY a load of clothes. Take a ten minute break. See what I mean?? In the end, you get a LOT more done...and in a LOT less time than sitting back wishing you didn't have so much to do!
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You're right. Actually, I kind of have been doing that today sort of. I have gotten a lot done, just much more to do....
I gave both boys a bath and ironed some nice cloths for them to wear to school.
fed them and got them on the bus.
I took dh to get his truck fixed and then he took me to pick out a cute bench for mother's day.
Got back, hung out a load of cloths on the line and have another almost ready to go.
Got aunties dinner in the oven
Still haven't made it to the shower, but I'm taking a break to have my lunch before I continue.
Thanks for talking me off the ceiling!
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You sound just like me lately!!! I just went to the dr yesterday and got my 3rd prescription for my allergies (yes I take them all at once!) and I still do not feel any better!!! It is hard to be nice and get things done when you feel like crap!!! I have so much to do in the house, but the lttle one wants to be outside and it is just not fair to keep him in on such a beautiful day!!! So, I think we will play today and I will stay up late tonight and do what I need to do. I think it will help everyone's disposition!
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Originally Posted by treehugger
My dh is working a ton so he's really not here and when he is, there are other things he needs to do.
I think that is the bottom line of why you are feeling this way. You dh has been working so much and from the sounds of it, it seems like this is a new situation. I know when my dh is gone or working a lot during tax season, I feel exactly like you do. It's just overwhelming having to do everything by yourself. I don't know how single parents do it. I feel for them and give them tons of credit.
Hopefully your dh's work situation will slow down. If not, my next best advice is to lower your standards to a point where you can feel less overwhelmed and then slowly work back up to what you feel like you should be doing. For instance, don't worry about the state of your house for awhile. Just do the minimum cleaning. Feed the kids healthy foods (like you would have any other kind anyway ) for meals but don't worry if they aren't typical meals....more like a bunch of snacks. stuff like that.
Hang in there!