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I posted earlier to ask if anyone knew how to locate a birth mother and I have been successful in contacting the Reunion Registry in Georgia. I provide them with a list of questions and a letter to my birth mother telling her alittle about myself. Along with $300.00 for the search. What do you think about looking up a birth mother?
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You know what I think!
We will talk later this weekend, I hope! Depends on Mother's Day festivities! lol
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I say go for it, but keep your expectations low. My cousin just recently found his birth mother and has been writing back and forth to her, he's planning to visit her sometime this summer. He was lucky in that she was also searching for him and they were matched up thru the Lutheran Adoption agency that took care of the original adoption.
I think if it were me i would want all those unanswered questions solved. Even if it isn't the best outcome, atleast you will know what happened to your birth parents and vice versa.
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The lady I talked to at the registry said that I would have control of the situation for the most part if my birth mother was interested in communicating with me. I am really interested in getting medical history updated but I am not sure about a relationship. I just do not know yet. I guess I am getting the cart before the horse since I don't even know if she would be interested in having a relationship me. The way I understand it is I provide the registry with a list of questions I would like answered because this could be my only chance. I would love some input on what questions you would like answered if you were in my situation. I also must write letter telling them alittle bit about myself and why I am interested in getting in touch with them. I guess to let them know that I am not a drug dealing jailbird after their money. Then they would open my file and try to track down my birth mother. If she is deceased they would contact me with her name, date of death, where she is buried and the such. If the contact her - they would explain the situation, read her my letter and ask her my questions. Then she could hang up and give them no info, tell them that she will answer their questions but does not want them to give me any personal information about her or she can tell them she would like to contact me, then they would contact me with this info and we could go thru them to contact each other thru letters if we want or they will provide us with contact info and we could do it directly. I am just still on the fence with this and I need some input!!!!
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I wish you luck and closure. I hope you find what you are looking for. This is a hard one. May it bring you both peace.
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I'm sorry I don't know your whole situation, but I am wondering why you have to pay $300! That seems like an awful lot to me. We (my dh and I) have done searches for people through the internet and public records and it's never cost us anything. Wouldn't your birth mother be listed on your birth certificate or social security paperwork? If so you don't have to pay for that information. But like I said, I don't know your situation so if you can't do if yourself then I guess that is a small price to pay to learn the truth! Good Luck!
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I have no information about my mother other than her birth date. When I was adopted a new birth certificate is issued with my new name, my adopted parents name and the county that the adoption was finalized. I have no idea how to even begin a search with little or no information.
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If only you could figure out the County and state you were born in, the county courthouse should have your birth records, not sure if the hospital keeps records that far back but it's worth a shot. Sometimes the library will have records on Microfilm or Microfish,whatever it's called. I would also suggest asking your local librarian if they have any books on how to hunt down and find birth parents,maybe doing a search online for websites that can help also, they might have message boards with people who can give you great tips and ideas too.
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Tanya, even if she knew the county (she knows it was Georgia), the records are sealed at the courthouse. The only way to open them is to have a medical reason.
Kaye, as I said before, I would go for it, but take it one day at a time. You explained it best that you might be putting the cart before the horse.
I am sending you one last secret sister present. I would have gotten this before, but I didn't know you were even adopted! This book opened my eyes to some of the things birth mothers go through.
Just go into it with an open mind that nothing may come of it, but also something may and you might learn your medical background as well.
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First - Claire - clean out your Private Message box!!!!
One concern I have is I do not want to disrupt anyone's life. I have had a wonderful life and I do not want to cause confuse or anything in my birth mother's life. She may have other children that have no idea about me or a husband she has never told about me. I have just such mixed emotions. I know I do not need to get my hopes up but it is hard not to. Then I think - what if this is a total nightmare and it is something I started.
If I do thru with this I have to send them a list of questions that I would like answers to. I am composing those now. Of course medical and mental history is top on the list. I have thought of some others but if you were in my situation what questions would you want answered?