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My inlaws are horrible about calling at the last minute and saying that they want to come visit for the weekend (they live about 4 hours away in IL) -- sometimes even calling on a Thursday night & saying they want to come on Friday (which we've said "no" to). So, tonight, right at dinnertime, my FIL calls & says that they want to come down for Mother's Day weekend. We made reservations for brunch about a month & a half ago for the 4 of us, and the house is a disaster because I try to clean and Ian follows along behind me and makes an even bigger mess, so I really can't do any cleaning when the kids are awake. So DH talks to FIL, and mentions the reservations and not being sure we can change them, but says that we will try (and eventually calls, and they do change it from 4 to 6). So, now I get to spend every moment that I'm not watching the kids (except when I'm typing vents on here ) cleaning the house. Not exactly how I wanted to spend my time leading up to Mother's Day, but we haven't seen them in a while & I know that the kids will be happy to see them. I told DH that I just wish that they would give us at least 5 days notice. When I said to MIL when they've done this in the past that I needed more time to clean up the house, her response was "you don't have to clean for us", excuse me but that is total bull. I clean when we have service people coming in to the house, and I'm not going to clean for my ILs -- yeah right. Okay, I feel better now. Off to clean .
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I'm sorry, but your dh needs to stand up for you more. Personally, I think he should have said that you had plans that couldn't be changed, rather than telling them the detail. Since I'm sure he won't call them right now and call the visit off, or postpone till later, HE needs to be cleaning!
Yeah, right, you don't need to clean....my SIL said the same thing, yet did a pop in surprise on me and, noticing the piles on my island, asked what project I was working on, because I've used that excuse before. Don't wanna see it, don't come.
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Oh yeah i know what you mean, don't fall for that " Oh you don't need to clean up for us" line. If she's anything like my MIL she would use it against me later and make snide comments about how messy my house is.
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Originally Posted by Country~mouse
Oh yeah i know what you mean, don't fall for that " Oh you don't need to clean up for us" line. If she's anything like my MIL she would use it against me later and make snide comments about how messy my house is.
mine too!!! Im soo glad my inlaws woudl rather see the other family!! (dh sisters) and ya know its just fine with me!!!
good luck!
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I guess I must be in the minority because I don't have this problem with my in laws. I always clean before they come over, but my mil doesn't make any of those snide remarks though. I must admit that my in laws are pretty great!
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I'm sure your dh appreciates you being a supportive and kind wife. Good for you!!
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Originally Posted by desertmom
HE needs to be cleaning!
Oh, he will be. That's one of the first things I said, if they're coming, he needs to help clean. He is actually really good about standing up to his mother when the need arises. She is always trying to pawn stuff off on us that she doesn't want anymore or when she finds a "great sale" at TJ Maxx, and he is much better at telling her no (years of practice ) than I am. My inlaws are wonderful people, I just wish that they would give us more notice when the come to visit!