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My dd has her 8th grade field trip tomorrow.... We paid for the ticket like 2 months ago, and she knew about it long before that. This trip has been the topic of many conversations this past week or two.. Tonight we had softball/baseball games ad get home at 9:40pm. She then says to me could you take me to Walmart so I can get basketball shorts for tomorrow....I say umm you have basketball shorts she says they are not the right color.. I say ..No I am not going to walmart at 10:00 at night... I say your brothers both have red ones wear a pair of theirs..... she trys them on and say they are to baggy and pouff out on the sides whatever that means.. they aren't to big and they hang straight down.... I say I am not going to walmart tonight.... She has many other things she could wear if these shorts are not working for her....
Her dad then gets home.. she comes out of her room that is still not clean (she has had all week) and says will you take me to Walmart to get some shorts..he breathes deep says whats wrong with the ones you have on (which are her brothers) she gives him the same line she gave me and with out another thought he says yes????? I said nothing but my mind is screaming >>>What the heck<<<< I am wrong or is that jusr crazy!
I don't get it........... then he says to me I am taking Sabrina to Walmart to get shorts for tomorrow like I am not sitting right here in plan sight listening... I say yea I got that>>> He is like is that ok ------Like I am going to say something now... I just said whatever....
They leave I am sure she is laughing all the way to the store...
ok sorry I feel better just typing it out.
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Oh this was a no no when I was growing up. If I ever asked the other parent after one already said no...oh my goodness...not good! Have a talk w/ dh and tell him that he should stay on the same page as you.
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Did your dh know that she had been told NO by you? IF so, for SHAME on him for not backing you up...and definitely for shame on her.....she DID know. I totally agree with you and what you did.
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My youngest *4 years* is still 'getting it' that asking one after the other says no, means big trouble...
but from what I read,, there's a 'loophole',, mom didn't say i couldn' t HAVE some shorts,, just that she wasn't goin' to go to the store this late......
rotten teenyboppers!!! hehehe
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He didn't know I had said no because he got home later then the rest of us, but usually he would ask me before just going ahead and doing something like that....... and really I just can't believe he took her at 10 pm..
Your right I didn't say that she couldn't have the shorts just that I wasn't taking her that late...and she would use that she uses every play on words she can......UGH!
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If it were me, I would have told dh that I had aready told dd that she could not go to Walmart. There is no way I would have let her get away with that one.
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Okay this is just me and might be a little strong
I would talk with you dh and then talk with your dd. I would ground her and tell her that you do not play on each parent if one parent says no then it is no. Let you dh tell her that that was wrong and if he already knew that you said no she would not be going.
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Originally Posted by hawkshoe
If it were me, I would have told dh that I had aready told dd that she could not go to Walmart. There is no way I would have let her get away with that one.
ditto
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my dh does that to me all the time!! and he knows I said NO!!! but If he didnt It would drice me nuts but I woulnd be as mad!!
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Same here, I would have stopped her in the middle of her asking and said I had already told her no, and that's it. My kids know they can't ask one of us and then ask the other if they don't get the answer they like.