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I love being a mom. And I have always loved Mother's Day, even before I became a mom. I've always gave my mom and MIL cards and presents to celebrate them being moms. My mom gives me a card every year, since I was pregnant with DS#1. On the other hand, my MIL has never even acknowledged me on mother's day. Not even a "Happy Mother's Day". She is a very selfish individual, to begin with. I don't expect a card or anything from her, but a simple "Happy Mother's Day" would be nice. This is a woman who practically forced one of her own daughters to have an abortion (she told her she would disown her and all sorts of other horrible things), and now that daughter may never be able to ever get pregnant again, because of tons of complications from the abortion. In fact, she almost bled to death! And now that another of her daughters is pregnant (married for 2 years), she told DH that people have kids all the time. It's no big deal that her daughter has a baby. She told him, "I just don't get excited about things that easily"!!!!! WHAT? She has been making her daughter feel bad that she is expecting, even though she is 31 years old and married! She refuses to get happy for her. I told my SIL that I am very excited for her and I can't wait to have a new niece/nephew! I doubt her own mother will even ever tell her Happy Mother's Day, but I WILL! Right in front of MIL, just to spite her. Just to let her know that I AM HAPPY for HER daughter.
DH always told me that she was not a nice person, but she had always been nice to me. Never gave me any reasons not to like her, until her first daughter had the abortion. Since then, I can hardly stand her. And now this. She doesn't get excited about things "that easily"...WHATEVER!!
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She sounds like a very miserable human being.
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I am sorry that it is that way for you. My MIL is about the same but her reasoning in her head is because her kids are not grown ups they are still kids to her in her mind. She still calls them all her babies they are 30,28,19,11 but My on the other had is not treated like an adult by her so I get nothing she even had the nerve to call my child her baby too. So needless to say we are not going over there on mothers day 50 min drive anyways. So we sent her card this year since I told dh I am sick of being the bigger person and that I was done trying with his mother.
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grrr, how rotten. Be there for your SIL and ya'll enjoy every aspect of motherhood TOGETHER and don't let her ruin anything
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I don't know what is up with MILS! Mine has never said Happy Mother's Day to me, given a card or anything. We had gone to breakfast one time for Mother's day with them and she never once said anything to me, even after I handed her a gift and a card. I had soooo had it last year, I finally stopped getting anything for her, I didn't even send a card. Why bother? She's not my mom!