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Mother's Day.
I thought he was being so nice by "switching" weekends with me so that I could have the kids here for Mother's Day.
The phone rings at 9:00....and it is my ex TELLING the kids to hurry up and make cards for his sister, mother, and his wife....so that he can come and pick them up and bring them to the appropriate people today!!
So where are my kids right now??? In their rooms making cards for everyone else, and guess what I have gotten from them so far...
NOTHING!!!
Their Father has made sure that his family comes first!!
I know they have stuff for me....but I have been put on the back burner apparently.
I didn't even realize what was going on....I thought they were making cards for me (last minute)....my ds comes out and hands me a card....and I was confused a little by what it said...and he says "Oh no, that is for Aunt ____".
That is when I found out about what the phone call was all about....
:furious:
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YOU should be first....not the rest of the family. Im sorry that he has to be like that, especially on Mothers Day which only happens once a year. I would definately say something to him....but somehow it would probably go in one ear and out the other. :hugs:
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i thought all visitation required the Mother to get them Mothers Day and the Father--Fathers Day--thats strange. Well dh sent dsd to his parents for the weekend--I'm not her Mother so I guess he thought it didn't matter--they sure can walk on your heart can't they!
Happy Mothers Day to you! One day they will know who it was who did everything for them--or at least thats what I keep telling myself.
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If he switched weekends, they should be with you today!!! He should not be able to pick them up!!!
Spend some quality time with the little one today!!!!! Big hugs!
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OMG, I guess I was so mad that I didn't word that properly.
He is picking up the cards in an hour....NOT the kids. Sorry for the mix up.
They have been in their rooms for a while now....and they keep coming out and asking me for help....for example, my dd wants me to help come up with 10 things why her grandmother (my ex's mother) is such a wonderful person....so that she can make a top ten list for her card...
I guess I will get my cards and presents from them when they are all done making these cards for everyone else.....
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That's really dumb!!! I guess I have never seen any reason to give Mother's Day cards to someone who is not your MOTHER!!!!
ETA: or mother figure (such as a daycare provider or someone who is raising you)
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Originally Posted by Happymom
That's really dumb!!! I guess I have never seen any reason to give Mother's Day cards to someone who is not your MOTHER!!!!
ETA: or mother figure (such as a daycare provider or someone who is raising you)
We always had my kids give mother's days cards and gifts to their grandmothers when they were alive. Today we are going to dh's aunts house (since both moms are dead) and we're taking her a card and plant.
I guess I would have thought it was better if he'd planned ahead and had them do that last time he had them at his house. But unfortunately most men don't plan ahead well like that. I would try to not worry so much about it. If you focus on the negative it will end up spoiling your mother's day and you don't want that. So just enjoy some quiet time while they're working and then the rest of the day is yours!!
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WHAT???!? Sounds like they are afraid of him!
And yes, he should have planned better, asking them to do it earlier in the week.
And I'm sorry, but she's his NEW, BRAND NEW wife. She hasn't earned it yet. While I think it would be a very nice gesture (best if encouraged by you to teach manners) for them to make cards for her, I don't think he should have demanded it. This is your day! He should have the kids take the cards next week - belated Mothers Day.
Hmph! Aren't you glad he's EX? (I know, I've said it before.)
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Sometimes the nerve of some people just amazes me! Your exDH is being very selfish and perhaps just trying to infringe on your special day. Of course, maybe his new wife encouraged the act. Who knows? At any rate, you are handling it like a true mama by letting the kids do what they need to then having your time. I hope you had a fabulous afternoon with your kids!
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I say Fathers day if you dont have them call them and have them make things for others as well!! (well that sounds god but you are better than that!!)
Hope the rest of the day gets better!!