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I hadn't posted about this so it is alittle long. I could kick the lady in the arse right now. This is an email she sent to STEVEN's yahoo account that he uses over there:
this email from his aunt who contacts him ohhh once every 2 or 4 years! This is the same social worker loser who said AJ should be removed from J and M's care BUT that she would give them a chance even though she see so many wrong things... (the baby we were to adopt)
Casey
I discussed the matter of your 'forwarding everything to Steven' with J. I thought there was some military protocol that requires e-mail from family to be screened before being sent to men serving in Iraq. J assures me there is no such protocol. E-mails addressed to Steven are to go directly to Steven. I am writing my nephew in Iraq - because he is in Iraq. If Steven wants to forward messages sent to him to you, that is his prerogative. I am very uncomfortable with your involvement because to me this is an invasion of Steven's and our privacy.
In the past, I enjoyed, even welcomed, communicating with you thru the Internet. It was your decision to stop our communication process. But your decision has nothing to do with our relationship with our nephew. Now, I am not sure that Steven even got my e-mail that you intercepted because I have not heard from him. Did you send the birthday card and Valentine's Day card with picture of G'ma's 90th I sent before he left? I am not sure he received those because I have never heard anything from him. I sent another just recently. Now, I am concerned whether Steven has ever heard anything from me or his Uncle Jack since his deployment.
I seriously believe not hearing from loved ones during a deployment in a war zone can compromise one's well-being. NO ONE has the right to interfere between parties in this situation. From this time on, I expect that you respect any communication between Steven and his family - and that includes NOT reading any news from this part of Monroe addressed to Steven unless Steven so elects.
Stevens reply to her:
Aunt T,
I have been getting your e-mails though the connectivity out here is up and down a lot of times. Getting e-mail around here is hard. Especially when I have to travel to other bases around Iraq. I really appreciate the e-mails and yes I did get the cards and grandma picture. At the time I did not have your e-mail address. Sorry I didn't write sooner. Things have been in cycles up here (busy, unbusy, busy again) I work long days 7 days a week out here. I do appologize for not writing back sooner. I do not have any problem with my wife fowarding everything to me. She is just making sure I get it. My fault for not writing sooner. Please back off from talking to my wife that way. I really take offense with talking to her that way. I know over the years we have not talked very much and are just now starting to hear from you. Like I said before, I have been very busy up here. There have been quite a few shoot downs around here that I have been working on. Also working on the ones that get hit ND make it back. I really have been busy. And lately been concern with my own family. I glad to here from you. But please back-off from my wife. She has done nothing wrong. If you want to blame someone, blame me. Its hard to keep up on all the e-mails, when they come through and sometimes they slip through the gaps. I'm dealing with the war over here, my safety, other under me safety, doing my job, family concerns, grandma, my next assignment. I have a lot on my mind to worry about. So again I'm sorry I haven't written sooner. I just got your other e-mail just the other day. Haven't had a chance to respond. I know you are concerned about me, but also I know M and Dad have been keeping you informed of my status. I'm doing well and staying safe as possible. Please do not take offense to this. I'm just protecting my wife and telling you what has been going on around here and what I'm dealing with over here too. She and my kids comes first. Take care and God Bless.
Your proudly serving nephew,
MY reply:
Wow are you going to feel like a freaking idiot. I did not even touch your email to Steven. I told you I forward emails between Grandma H and I. Which so sorry to let you know that is nothing but my privacy. My husband is over in a war zone. I have every right and his permission to get in his email and throw away the bulk and junk email he gets. For example grow a bigger pen!s, sex crap that comes through that he can get in trouble for accidentally opening on a government email.
You choose not to have contact with us anymore and refused to reply to any emails. Lets see that was after you told me I was like S, and everything going on with AJ.
If you choose to act like the loving caring aunt feel free to email Steven. But know I couldn't care less if he gets emails from you and am very offend that you run to J accusing me of such stuff. What crap! So I hope now you can get your panties out of the bunch they are in and know you were completely wrong in all of this.
The more I think about what you said here pisses me off. I have more respect for family then your family even knows about. But this is once again you going off what you think you know. To me family is someone who is around all year round. Not when they want to feel good and be a good Christian and email a nephew just so they have a clear conscious incase something happens........
And I have nothing else to say on this matter, but will continue to check his email to make sure he only gets emails from friends and family like stated in the last email. If you continue to have "issues" with this. They have this thing called a pen and paper...... .
Now all this stems from a email she sent Steven saying that she had told his grandma that emailing me did not benifit Steven in any way, that he should be the one hearing from her. I sent her a email and told her FYI I forward all the emails to Steven. So she assumes I meant all emails not the ones from his grandmother!! What a freaking idiot! Now she has written him a letter, took my advice I guess, and told him how I should have never forwarded that emails to Steven. It was meant to go between me and her! That I shouldn't be trying to cause problems! So I emailed her today:
Wow I have no clue on what you are trying to start but let me tell you. Steven and I have a very trusting and strong marriage and do communicate often even though he is in Iraq. He told me today he received your letter and I am glad you took my advice but I want to let you know where you are wrong and you need to quit blaming me.
I did not forward your stupid email to him. You sent that email addressed to me to his email account. He read it and sent it to me. So for once accept you are completely in the wrong and stop trying to stir up trouble where you will not accomplish stirring up trouble.
Thank you for your time
Good bye,
Casey
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Good FOR YOU!!!!!!! What a B!!!!
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I guess she went on and on in the letter about me. I guess she thinks Steven will choose her over me!
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Like he needs her CR^p while he is over in Iraq!!! he needs care and loving and support from family not Trouble!! (Im sure its hard enough being away from familu!!!
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Why is she even bothering him with all this petty stuff?! Way to go to your dh for putting her in her place! He has too much to be focused on over there then her stuff!
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Ya' know...she would be a good example on why they should NOT get email from home...since it rather distracts them from the good they are doing. For shame on her not only putting a negative outlook on YOU, but also for shouldering HIM with this. Hope she is proud of herself.
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Blessed_with_6 took the words right out of my mouth! Shame on her! Neither he nor you need any of this. You both have enough on your minds. You need love and support. And, you have my gratitude for your sacrifices. God bless your family!
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Yeah she is a big time selfish idiot! I guess she wrote the letter and it goes on and on about me! I guess if she lived closer to me should could councel me?? WTH? I would councel her by boxing her in the ear! She would learn alot from a pissed off red head!
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Ugh! I'm totally livid for you!! Talk about a classless human being....
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Ohhh, that gets me sooooo ticked off. Anyone with even half a brain should realise that there are bigger things going on out there then getting a simple email. Oh and this is IRAQ that we are talking about. Have people forgotten that there is a war going on at the moment...... Again, bigger things.