Ask:
I had this realization the other day. I overheard some parents talking about how good Avery is in soccer, I even had a couple of people come up to me at the game and tell me that he was really good. When I watched him all I could see what what he needs to work on. Then going through Dustin's backpack, I noticed he missed a word on his spelling test and I am wondering why. He never misses spelling words. Then it hit me! I expect alot from my kids, because they are my kids! I am going to have to make a consious effort to say, "Avery, great game! I love the way you hustle down the field all the time!" And not worry that he did not score this game!!! I need to tell Dustin. "I am so proud that you only missed one spelling word this week!" Not, "What happened, why did you miss one?"
Answer:
Yes! I do this too. I feel like I'm being really negative all the time towards them. But if I spend any time around other kids their age, I realize my kids are great!
Answer:
You are not alone! I think it's because we know they can do better than what they're doing, and it's better to have high expectations of them than none at all. That's my opinion anyway! With that being said though, I know exactly how you feel about the spelling test. DD missed two words last week, and she has only spelled one word wrong this entire school year!! So I said.."honey, we spelled this right all week long, what happened?" I wasn't mean about it, just wondering if she was distracted, etc...and she got soooo upset! She gets really upset if her work isn't perfect. I see some parents who just simply don't seem to care when their child is failing. We have to have standards for our children. It helps mold them when we continue to challenge them.
Answer:
i do expect more from my kids but not unrealsitically. i always compliment them on their efforts, but also show themw ays of improving or asking them if there was a reason why they missed a word or something like that. but first i compliment always, before i say anything else. my dd has missed a few words tis year for spelling but she is only in grade one and she gets more right than she does wrong, and when she gets a word wrong we practice it a couple of times until seh has it down.its pretty rare though that she misses words. her teahcer is very happy with her progress and the only thing i am not to happy about is that the teacher sits her with the kids who have more troubles spelling or reading or just doing the work so she can help them through it. i persoanlly don;t think it is right to distract her from her own work, its the teachers job to teach the kids not my dd's. buti t isn't affecting her work so i don't want to say anything to the teacher about it.
Answer:
I think that we are all like this. I expect a lot but not unrealistically! Sometimes I have to bring myself back to reality & just sit back & enjoy them.