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Just wondering if you guys make nice with all the Mom's at your kid's schools/activities. Sometimes I find it quite difficult, as I am a bit younger than all the other Mom's at DD's preschool. (I'm in my 20's) We are all friendly to eachother, but that's about it. Do you go out of your way to get to know the Mom's?
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I try to be friendly but I dont really know how to "make friends". Sometimes I think it would be neat to be friends with a mom from dds school. How you do go from ,Hi my name is ,to would you like to go shoping.
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*hopes to make local friends one day* lol
I'm going to start chick in preschool this fall, so I actually WISH I could end up with a friend or two that way,, but I don't know *shrugs*
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I don't usually make friends with the other mothers from dd's activities, (like, you, I'm a lot younger than them) although I have become friends with one of them. I do have friends, just not many made through dd's activities.
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Personally, I think mommyhood has been even more devastating to me socially than high school! HA, HA. I spent the first year and half of my son's life basically alone (well, not ALONE, but friendless). I would complain to my husband because it seems like all of my friends work and the ones who do not, live too far away or their children are too old to befriend mine.
So, I joined a local chapter of the MOMS Club. Granted, I've met a few people...but every event feels like the first day of school. I look around the room & try to gauge with which mommies might I have something in common. The answer: none. HA! The other day I was taking a walk with my son & we came face to face with two mommies pushing strollers...well, it was as if I was wearing Harry Potter's invisibility cloak. They just passed on by & nevr stopped talking to one another.
Mommyhood can be very cliquish...but overall, as long as I have my husband & my family...I have no worries.
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Just when I thought it was only me. I've went to playgroups, etc. but it didn't work for us. I was not able to connect with the moms (a group of 5 were like best buddies).
There are a couple moms at preschool that I talk with before/after school and I invited their children to a birthday party. They are nice but there still is no major connection.
I'm probably average age (33) but the other moms seem more sophisticated than me. I'm pretty much a ski bum. I wear jeans/cargo pants/shorts and tees. I don't shop or scrapbook.
I try to keep in touch with old friends but I think they've written me off because I have two little children.
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I am the complete opposite of Mom2one! Mommyhood has been very, very good to my social life compared to high school! Shoot! Adulthood has been good to me compared to high school. My mother is amazed at the number of really good friends I have now as I was very, very shy in school.
Yes, I have friends in my children's classrooms. BUT, most of those I already knew. We have lived here for five years and meet a lot of military folks. They come and go, which is sort of sad, but I have noticed that military families, for the most part, are very, very friendly very quickly because they are only in one place for 2-3 years. So, it is fairly easy to make friends with them. Plus, after five years in a relatively small town, you just start to know people.
Am I comfortable all the time? SHOOT NO! I am older than a lot of the moms since we did not have children until I was 30, but, for the most part, it doesn't matter.
When we first moved here, I was really, really lonely, that is how I found here, which helped a lot! But, after 5 1/2 years, I feel like I have some really good friends now. This year I did not really make any friends, just acquaintances, in my first grader's class, but I did meet some other moms from the school. My preschooler had some friends' children in the class already, but that was by chance.
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I had one friend with whom I had a lot in common, we met through our kids who were the same ages. Neither of our husbands was involved with the kids so we became a "couple" of sorts. People used to joke about us being lesbians because we were always together... the truth was we were not lesbians and they weren't kidding when they were gossiping among themselves.. When we found out just how vicious the gossip mill was in our tiny community (school population 96 students) we avoided all the other moms. If I didn't have my one friend I think it would have been a miserably lonely time in my life.
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Well, I am older than most of the parents of my boys friends, younger than the friends of my oldest and about the same age as my 13 yr old's friends parents. I have made friends in the past with my kid's friends parents, and now, being new in town, I love going to their things. I had people at wrestling that I would chat with while the boys were practicing. I could chat with the other parents at volleyball tournaments and now I can chat with parents at soccer. I love it!! I am not looking for hard and fast bosom buddies but I am getting to be known in this town!
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I joined a moms group to make friends and it just made things worse. I too felt like it was the first day of scholl at every event. I never connected with anybody and almost felt unwanted.