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I met with the DL yesterday and my legal date of Seperation is this upcoming Monday. I got all my questions answered as to what I can do and can't and really there's more on my side then I though. Legally, he doesn't have to leave or he can. I did tell him yesterday that I was filing for divorce whether he believes me or not, it's up to him. i don't really care. My lawyer, Julia, she wants to try to approach it civily, since the kids are small, and just say we've grown apoart and just don't want to be with him anymore. But be decent for the kids sake, but that won't happen. He told me he'll drag it out as long as possible,a nd bleed me dry. I can't move in with my parents because it's considered a relocation, and that can cause some problems. But with child support and alimony, I'm looking at 2100 a month. Plus what I make, I'll be about to stay in the house, plus kinda stay in the situation, with the kids friends, my friends and all.
We talked alot and I just feel free, and strong. It's the first time in a long long time I've felt this happy and strong.
Thank you girls for all the support through the years. I have a tough road ahead of me, but I'm not the only one that has ever been through this.
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Good for you!! I am glad you got all of your questions answered. And no, you are not the only one that has gone through this. If you ever have any questions, feel free to ask.
Just be careful with "expecting" child support. It is still up to the judge....and I have seen situations first hand...where the "Dad's" change jobs to prevent themselves from having to pay child support at a "higher" rate.
Not trying to scare you.....just be careful with expecting child support payments to make the bills. Especially since he is already saying that he will drag this out....doesn't look like he is just going to "do the right thing".
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Good for you!! Stay strong Steph!
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Good for you!! I can sense the relief in your post!!!
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I know this is a long time coming and I hope it continues to go smoothly. Sounds like you are in for an emotional rollercoaster - not that you have not been on one.
Good luck!
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Good luck, stay strong and hope he will not be able to drag it out for ever. hugs to you!
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I'm so proud of you, but you already know that! Don't hesitate to pm me if you ever need help! Take Care!
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I'm so proud of you! I know how hard this is, but am glad that you did this for yourself and your family and are not letting his threats (bleed you dry? Geez...that's gonna make you stay, huh?) scare you down. Keep being strong. You are doing the best.
Best wishes to you, and please stay with us as much as you can! Thank you for the update - I've been thinking of you!
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Originally Posted by Bucsnpats
Just be careful with "expecting" child support. It is still up to the judge....and I have seen situations first hand...where the "Dad's" change jobs to prevent themselves from having to pay child support at a "higher" rate.
I totally agree with the being careful and not banking on this money. If he is planning on bleeding you dry, I think he is definately going to try to get out of paying you some way. And even if he is required to pay you that much, you never know if he really will or not. My cousin is also supposed to be receiving a very good amount of child support and alimony but she rarely gets it. Don't mean to be down.... just realistic.....
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Good luck--and I am with the others on the expecting--even if they don't pay it costs you a fortune to go and try and get them to. we are in this with dh's ex, she hasn't paid since August. Do they still give alimony?