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Yesterday I went to a picnic. I had expected to see a couple there that I used to work with many years ago. The mom was a SAHM, very sweet and kind, always baking something for the dh to take to work. The dad always spoke highly of his wife, they were strong Catholics and had two beautiful girls that recently have gone to college.
When I asked if this couple were coming, the host turned to me and said they were 'no longer Mr. and Mrs.' They were married 25 years and I always thought of them of a good stable marriage.
This just devestates me! I remember them as a family praying for me 15 years ago when I was really sick. Man, doesn't anyone stay together anymore?
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It is sad and it is hard to take. Especially because we see a different story on the outside. No one really knows what goes on behind closed doors.
I'm sorry your friends split. It's never a happy day to hear that. ((HUGS))
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Like Christy said you never know what happens behind closed doors. My great Uncle and Aunt divorced after 50 yrs of marriage talk about shocking and upsetting. I still will never understand that one.
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My parents have been married for 37 years..and my dh's for 41. We are fixing to celebrate 14 years...and we fully intend to BEAT both of our parents!! I think, for us, it is mostly about the fact that we promised ourselves AND God to do this through thick and thin. We both acknowledge that there ARE valid reasons for divorce...but for the most part, in our opinion, most marriages these days end for reasons that are NOT valid. It IS sad....
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It's true that a lot of people put a facade. My grandparents were good Catholics too but once their kids were grown up, my Granny divorced him. She'd endured 21 years of his alcoholism.
I've been married for 15 years this summer and it's been mostly happy. But there are times when I don't know if it will last...and I'm sure most people would be completely shocked if we got divorced.
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Mine and DH's parents have both been married almost 40 years, and one set of my grandparents made it past 50 years, and the other made it all the way to 60 years . We're planning on being together just as long, if not longer -- with such good examples, we're already ahead of the game.
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Originally Posted by merandmalmom
I've been married for 15 years this summer and it's been mostly happy. But there are times when I don't know if it will last...and I'm sure most people would be completely shocked if we got divorced.
We'll be celebrating our 12th in a couple months, however we've been seperated for almost a year; been through tough times for about 2 years. You know what's surprising? All the people who are NOT surprised that we're seperated! We're not unhappy, but at the same time we're not happy. Is it worth spending a lifetime as just okay? Or do you take a risk and go for the chance to be really happy? I want my children to know that it's okay to be happy. Sometimes you have to take what you have learned from the relationship and move on. Easier said than done though.
For the divorcee's, how do you know when it's over? What circumstances made you (or him) decide to end it?
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i know if me and my dh ever got divorced it would knock people on their butts. people think our relationship is flawless and perfect, while that is just not true, while our issues are minor compared with alot of people and we rarely fight we do still have some issues. as does every couple. but our relationship is thankfully a good one. he never had a good example fora good relationship as a child or teen while i had an excellent one, my parents are very loving and caring with each other. he was raised mostly in a single parent home or his mom with some guy, they ahve always been more important than the kids. he was lucky to grow up normal and non screwed up, i thank his grandparents for that. i do like his mom though, her priority's were just never right.
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I just think a lot of people from the "Me" generation turned into the "Me, Me, Me!" generation. The world owes them a living and they won't do anything to improve situations where they are part of the problem.
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I agree, that is sad. I am thankful for the freindship me and my hubby have. It makes our problems a little easier to deal with. Sometimes it gets hard, but it does take two people to turn things around and if the other is not willing then it may end up bad. We really do not know what goes on behind closed doors.