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I just finally had enough and told him last night that I filed for divorce. He wasn't surprise or really that upset it seemed. He says that he wants to try to make it peaceful as possible, but we'll see. I just want the house and my car and he can take everything else. He wants me to sell the house and him get 25% of it. I just want to take over the mortgage, since he's walking away with no cc debt, 401k, his race car, trailer, truck and 2 cars.
He asked if we could just seperate and live apart for awhile and I said no, we've been living that way already, and it hasn't changed.
I have to call the lawyer tomorrow and see where I go from here. He really seemed emotionless though, but he said he's not surprised and knew it was just a matter of time. I just said he needed to put a bit of effort into it and he didn't. I needed to tell him exactly what I wanted.
It's neither here or there. I just want to get it over and move on. I have to find out about a job and insurance and all that. He just seemed too nice and calm about it.
He said that he doesn't want this, but he knows that I'm unhappy. But a few things he said during the whole thing reinsures his selfishness for himself. I don't care, just take what ever you want but we need to try to make is civil for the kids.
I'm just scared and worried about finances again. He said he'll pay child support, but he's not paying for me to stay in this house, which was almost 500 a month. I don't know if he'll pay alimony or not, I think that's were it will get hairy. So we'll see I'll keep you posted as I can.
Thanks for listening.
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I have to say ... I am so proud of you. I am so impressed with how strong you are about this...and how much you have grown since all of this crap first started (or at least since I first started reading about it)
I think keeping things peaceful is absolutely the best decision. YOu are still parents to your children and therefore will be involved with each other for their sake for the rest of your lives. So to keep it peaceful is definitely going to help the kids adjust to things and it will help you both move forward as stronger people.
If you are asking for opinions, I don't think you need to give him ANYTHING. If you are cool with simply having the car and the house, I don't think he should argue with that. I don't even think he should ask for 25% of it. He needs to support you and the kids during this adjustment and if that is all you want, he should grant you all that
Again, you have grown so much over the months....and I wanted you to know I am proud of you for taking these steps for a better life for yourself and your kids....and we are here for you through it all
((HUGS))
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(()) to you and your little ones. You are one stong lady.
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I'm sorry. Best of luck to you and your children.
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It is probably best for you and your children. You are so strong and I wish you the best.
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Way to go...I know you've been contemplating this for awhile. You've gotten this far & I know you'll be determined to make it with you & your kiddos. Keep being STRONG! XO
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Best of luck to you. I know this is hard (been there,done that - when I was 23 with 2 little ones) You will get through this. You've already taken the first step.....Good for you!" class="inlineimg" />
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Reading your post brought back sooo many memories. Stay strong and believe in your self. Don't dwell on the money, things have a way of working themselves out.
My prayers are with you...
Big hugs
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I've been reading your posts for some a few years now and I know what a long road it has been to get to this point. You and the little ones are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Big, BIG hugs to you. You haven't come to this decision implusively or irrationally. You are doing what is best for you and your children, despite how hard its going to be and you deserve big hugs and big applause for it. I hope and pray for your strength and courage in the upcoming months. No matter how busy you get, please remember you have friends here who are always here for you.