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I don't know if I'm just in a "funk" today, or what. On top of feeling exhausted (I'm preggers - in my 1st trimester) I just feel sort of depressed and directionless. I have lost my "get-up-and-go" and just feel sad.
A couple of my close friends who used to be sahm's have returned to work. Another is going through a divorce (I don't dare call and burden her with my silly issues!.) My mom has been so busy lately, I don't even have her to talk to. And, it's so hot here in Arizona, I can't just take my kids to the park to get some ' fresh air '.
Besides that, the sahm friends I have (with kids who my kids enjoy) just don't have the same interests as me. We're just different people. They actually know nothing about me, what I enjoy doing, researching, reading about etc.... that was sort of bumming me out yesterday, that no one really knows me!!!!!
Most friendships seem so "surface" that we never really, truly talk about important things. It's all fluff.
Well, maybe tomorrow my hormones will have calmed down.
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Yep...I hear ya. But you're pregnant! Those funks will come, and you have cabin fever! I'm doing the same. The kids are whining and I'm about to run screaming by the time dh gets home.
Your friend going thru a divorce? Maybe she needs your problems to take her mind off hers!
I love AZ, but I've been thinking lately how nice it would be to be in like San Diego or somewhere in New Mexico where we can breathe. It is so hot here right now. I've been trying to get out for days and get a wading pool for the baby. But dh got home late tonight and I couldn't do it.....tomorrow, maybe.
Have a decaf ice tea, have a bath and try to rest - sleep would help, huh?
Feel better!
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I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and hope your days get brighter. I can relate somewhat to the heat. I truly HATE hot weather. I am sure it is not as warm here as there, but the humidity here is getting awful.
I completely understand about those "artificial" relationships. It is nice to find someone who understands what makes you "tick". Just keep trying out new people and hopefully you will connect with someone that has your same interests. Also, please know that you have a lot of wonderful women on this board who you can turn to at any time. Sending you Happy Thoughts!!
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I think we all experience the "funk" of motherhood. Maybe some of us more than others!
If you are in a funk, it is best to talk about it. Even if it's with your friend who is going through a divorce. If she is anything like me, I'd rather hear about someone else's problems and worries, than to continually focus on my own. It would be a nice break for her I'm sure. Don't let what she's going through stop you from still needing and wanting to be with a good friend.
And of course, there is all of us. If we could just all fit in your pocket though....lol!!!
What works for me, and I hope you have the weather to support this idea: FRESH AIR. Change of scenary! Go for a walk with the kids. Get outdoors. Look for bugs, reptiles, anything to trigger a conversation. Focus on the little things in life. Make it a learning experience for your kids. Take books about spring along with you and then just stop and read to them. You will be amazed at how awesome your kids will respond to you that way and how good you will feel about yourself
((HUGS))
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Oh Kel, I wish you lived here by me! Big hugs sweetie, I'm here for you if you need to talk.
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I hope you get out of the funk before long. I know I felt that way during my 1st trimester, and still do occasionally. Sometimes I just feel like being sad. Especially with all the extra hormones you've got running around inside, its normal to feel that way.
Try to do something fun, but indoors. A museum or something maybe.
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Well, it's a new day now and I do feel better. I took a shower first thing, which always jump-starts my system.
Besides that, it's my son's last day of school, so there's something BIG!
And, I have a list of things to buy at WalMart. A little shopping therapy can do a person good sometimes....
Yesterday was just a weird, funky day and I hope I don't get sucked into that again today! It was very gloomy!
I also was thinking, I need something fun or just FUNNY in life. I think I tend to be more serious now that I'm a mom. My former self was fun-loving and wacky and all about doing crazy stuff. It's hard to be that way with a million responsibilities etc... it's like I've lost the spontaneous side of me.
Ok, day, here I come!
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So glad you are feeling better today!! I think we all have those days, I know I do and I do not have pregnancy on top of everything else!
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I'm glad you are feeling better today!! I get into those kind of funks too!
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Originally Posted by kellytime
I also was thinking, I need something fun or just FUNNY in life. I think I tend to be more serious now that I'm a mom. My former self was fun-loving and wacky and all about doing crazy stuff. It's hard to be that way with a million responsibilities etc... it's like I've lost the spontaneous side of me.
Ok, day, here I come!
I'm glad you're having a better day. Ya know, I've been thinking in the same direction. I love being a mom, but somewhere along the line I lost my free spririt. I'm stuck in my mom and wife role, while wonderful, there used to be so much more me! With everything that we have gone through here this week, it made me realise that there is more to life that just cleaning and putting dinner on the table. It's important to get out and talk and laugh with the people you love and do things that make you happy. We should all be able to be defined as more than a wife and mom. We are individuals too, with lots to offer. Kel, take the time to get out and be with people who make you smile.
Huge hugs