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Ok ladies I need to vent so just bare with me. This week has been bad for me in just about every aspect. It starts off with me going thru horrible hubby withdrawl and loneliness that only he can fill. The kids have been annoying me I have gotten several comments that my house is not clean enough or completely unpacked with only being here for 2 weeks with both little ones under my feet and no help from anyone. So ok that is really bothering me cause I know my house should be perfectly organized and unpacked and cleean since I am a stay at home mom. But come on I am one person with no help having to do all this on my own plus keep a 4 and 2 yo entertained and occupied at the same time. So by today I am so sick of the comments still very sad nand lonely for my hubby and the day just worse as it goes by. Starts by my vacumn cleaner breaking then hubby giving me a hard time cause I want to hire someone to organize my house for me and how the kids dont listen to me and walk all over me. So I deal, with all this and still try to go on with my day well I told a neioghbor I would watch her kids for a bit if she wasnt home in time for her hubby to leave at 6pm as I am walking out the door to leave I go to put my soda in the car and spill it all over my white shirt uggggghhhh I come in change my clothes and say ok whats next well I knew it could only get worse at this point so I get going down the road and a lady litterally pulls out right in front of me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had to slam my brakes on lurch the kids in their carseats everything goes flying to the floor and I start honking at her she shoots me a look of well you were in my way and that nshe did nothing wrong so at this point I am steaming mad and say ok lets just give this another try and lets try not to get killed. I get to where I am supposed to be and the kids play for a bit and I get home and notice there is something wrong with my phone so I start looking for the reason and low and behold the guinnea pig chewed the cord uggghh I just got the phone a week ago so now I feel like I am so incompitant and worthless that I fee;l like giving up cause I cant live up to the title of Joan Clever SAHM. Sorry this is soooo long but I just had to get it off my chest in hope that tomorrow will bring a better day.
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First of all, you need a big glass of wine (or something stronger) and a hot bath.
Second, who is complaining about the dirty house?? I am with you as far as getting NO help whatsoever and having to chase after kids. I too have wanted to hire someone to help me clean the house and than help me figure out a way to organize everything. I have a decent size kitchen with lots of cabinets and a pantry room, but everything is still so crappy and messy looking all the time. Laundry is always a huge mountain, even if I do it everyday. I thought my house would be so clean and beautiful if i was able to stay home with the kids. But it is not, it is basically as messy as it was when I worked. I can honestly say that some days, I just need to get my butt in gear and tackle this place. But when no one helps, it is easy to get frustrated with it and give up.
I think we all have near misses with crazy drivers. It sounds like you took it better than I did last time. About the same thing happened to me, but instead of dirty looks, I honked my horn and FLIPPED the person off! I figuerd it wouldnt do me any good to start cussing because the only ones that would have heard me was my kids.
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What kind of rotten people make comments about the state of your house? Just ignore them!
Hang in there. I am sending positive thoughts your way - even though I don't actually know what way that is!
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for you!! Who is criticising your house? Oh 2 weeks is NOT enough time to get unpacked and organized! Hang in there, you can only do what you can do.
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I hope you wake up and things are looking better for you in the morning. I will be thinking good thoughts for you and not-so-good thoughts for the people that are making their ugly comments. Sending hugs your way........
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I am sorry you had such a lousy day!
Do you want me to come fly down there and help you organize your house? I will!
Smile and laugh.......and know tommorrow is another day!
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Big and Positive thoughts for a better day
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So sorry some people are so openly opinionated and ugly to you. It is impossible to organize/unpack and take care of your kids at the same time and doing it on your own? Forget about it! I totally sympathize being an army wife i know I hate when we move to another place and it takes me about a good month to actually unpack and be able to find anything. Sounds like a black cloud was hanging over you today. Say a prayer, take a deep breath and make some time for you doing something you love. Hopefully tomorrow will be better. "The sun'll come out tomorrow, betcha bottom dollar that tomorrow they'll be sun! Just thinkin' about tomorrow clears away the cobwebs and the sorrow till there's none!!"
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hey you know what people dont realize is that sahm have one of the hardest jobs in the world, one because there is always so much to do and two because you never stop....SO I say forget the people criticizing your house if it bugs them that much then they can come over and do it for you. You need to sit down take a big long deep breath have a glass of wine make sure the kids are in bed and just veg.....maybe watch some movies or something but just relax,.....and by the way 2 weeks is way too short of a time to be completely unpacked and perfectly clean...especially with two little ones under foot...... Just know that all you need to do is take it one day at a time and forget all the people out there who have anything negative to say....... and hey i am sure we are all rootin you on you'll get through
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Don't let comments about your house get to you. You can only do what you can..being a sahm and trying to unpack is not an easy job. If they are making comments on your house then maybe they should get their a** moving and help you unpack instead of making you feel bad.
Do what you can today and enjoy the day. Hope your day is better !