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My son is 3 and has no desire to use the potty. We have tried everything that I can think of. He does not care about candy, stickers, or any reward. They work only for a short time and then he could care less. I know that he is smart enough to do it b/c in every other area he is advanced. He just seems to be lazy. I have tried letting him run around naked and that worked for a while but now he will just pee on whatever is around and then ask to help clean it up so that he can play in the water. He still does not keep a diaper dry at night so maybe he is just not ready? I am very busy with my 1 yr old and am also 5 1/2 months pregnant with our 3rd so going to the bathroom every 15 min is hard. Does anyone have any advice on what they did even when they were on the go all the time? I can't imagine have 3 in diapers so I have 4 months to get this worked out please help.
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I wouldn't fret. He may just be a little delayed. My son was potty trained during his third year - he just had to be ready. But once he started to get the hang of it, it went so quickly. THEY have the be the ones ready. Forcing them isn't good for either of you. I would just put the pullups back on and do the timed bathroom trips, taking it all easy. He will be ready soon enough.
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I think that boys just tend to be lazy. Mine did a little about it. It sounds like there isnt anything medically wrong with him in the plumbing department. I know with our 4 year old was 2 or so, he would go pee in the toilet great, but he would poop his pull up. We just happened to be planning a weekend trip a few weeks before hand. So we told him that he had to start going in the toilet all the time or we could not go. It worked, the next day and he never had an accident since then. So I guess we kinda bribed him. I dont feel sorry about it since it worked. Also, my now 5 year old was still wetting the bed at night when he was 3 1/2. I bribed him too. I would put him in pull ups every night and every morning he would be soaked thru. I flat out told him, that this was the last pack of pull ups I was getting and if he wanted to be a big kid, than he was gonna have to start getting up in the middle of the night to go potty. I told him if he went so many nights (i think I told him 10) that I would buy him a new V-Smile game. He started the next night getting up to go potty and has never had an accident since. Bribery works for some kids, others, it takes a lot more work. Dont give up!
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How far into 3 is he? I think my 3yr old trained easy but he had incentive with his older brother and a couple of older daycare kids. Maybe you could lay off of it for a couple of weeks and try again. He might think this is the only area he has control in and thats whats holding him back.
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Originally Posted by araefinn
I think that boys just tend to be lazy. Mine did a little about it. It sounds like there isnt anything medically wrong with him in the plumbing department. I know with our 4 year old was 2 or so, he would go pee in the toilet great, but he would poop his pull up. We just happened to be planning a weekend trip a few weeks before hand. So we told him that he had to start going in the toilet all the time or we could not go. It worked, the next day and he never had an accident since then. So I guess we kinda bribed him. I dont feel sorry about it since it worked. Also, my now 5 year old was still wetting the bed at night when he was 3 1/2. I bribed him too. I would put him in pull ups every night and every morning he would be soaked thru. I flat out told him, that this was the last pack of pull ups I was getting and if he wanted to be a big kid, than he was gonna have to start getting up in the middle of the night to go potty. I told him if he went so many nights (i think I told him 10) that I would buy him a new V-Smile game. He started the next night getting up to go potty and has never had an accident since. Bribery works for some kids, others, it takes a lot more work. Dont give up!
I also let them both pick out really cool "big boy" underwear. They thought they were too cool to have an accident in.
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Thanks I have tried new underware he just went in those also. I have also tried rewards that when he is trained we will go to the John Deere headquarters he was excited but did not want to go to the bathroom. He wants to start school this fall and I told him that he needs to go to the potty first he will say "OK" one minute and then the next careless. He is a very controlling child and is going through the independance stage which is not much fun at times.
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2 of my boys were 3 1/2. They were just both stubborn. Basically, I just stopped buying diapers. I just put them in underwear, did a lot of laundry for the first couple of days and within a couple of days, they were tired of wetting their pants and started using the toilet.
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With it being a boy not trained at 3, I say not a big deal. If it were a girl, it's a different story. Boys just take longer to train. I know both my sil had a hard time and plenty of my friends with little boys had the same frustration.
I am just starting to introduce my little dd (age 2) to the whole potty thing. I am not excited. It was one of the worst and stressful phases I had with her older dd. It took older dd a good 6 months before she really caught on to feeling the urge and telling me she had to go. It's not going to happen overnight like we all wish it did. Hang in there. It will come when he is ready.
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Originally Posted by karaebely
My son is 3 and has no desire to use the potty. We have tried everything that I can think of. He does not care about candy, stickers, or any reward. They work only for a short time and then he could care less. I know that he is smart enough to do it b/c in every other area he is advanced. He just seems to be lazy. I have tried letting him run around naked and that worked for a while but now he will just pee on whatever is around and then ask to help clean it up so that he can play in the water. He still does not keep a diaper dry at night so maybe he is just not ready? I am very busy with my 1 yr old and am also 5 1/2 months pregnant with our 3rd so going to the bathroom every 15 min is hard. Does anyone have any advice on what they did even when they were on the go all the time? I can't imagine have 3 in diapers so I have 4 months to get this worked out please help.
My nephew is turning 4 in 2 weeks.......he still doesn't talk. There is only one word that he says that you can understand.....it's mama. He is nowhere close to being potty trained he is still in diapers. I don't think he even understands the concept of going to the potty. He seems normal in everything else......but I suspect he may have some verbal issues. He cries alot and seems very sensitive to loud noises.
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Originally Posted by peenut00
My nephew is turning 4 in 2 weeks.......he still doesn't talk. There is only one word that he says that you can understand.....it's mama. He is nowhere close to being potty trained he is still in diapers. I don't think he even understands the concept of going to the potty. He seems normal in everything else......but I suspect he may have some verbal issues. He cries alot and seems very sensitive to loud noises.
Ok i'm confused. How can he be four and not talk and he's still in diapers but he seems normal in everything else. It sounds like he has more than just verbal issues. Have they had him diagnosed with any kind of learning disability?