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Dh came home from drill this weekend and hads me a pile of papers and told me to look over them. It was his will ! My heart sank because I know whats going on but thats a whole other thread . It got me thinking , Maybe its time I planned and wrote out a will ? Have any of you done this. I dont agree with some of the things in his will , like if something happens to both of us what would happen to the kids . I dont wanna say anythign cause he has alot on his plate. so really I wanna know how do you do a will ??
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Yes we do...we felt it was very important.
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Yeah, we set up wills, living wills, power of attorneys and medical power of attorneys. It was relatively inexpensive, and the attorney made it a very straight forward process. I recommend you talk to a professional if at all possible. Our lawyer made some wonderful suggestions and made some very valid points that I would never have considered on my own. We primarily did it to prevent a custody dispute should something happen to both DH and me.
We did this ten years ago (when DS#1 was born), but it's time we redid some things as circumstances have changed.
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Yes but on only this year! I should have had them the moment I got married and if not then at least the moment I became a parent. I waited far too long but it feels good to have them done now.
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We need to make one. I want to make sure that it includes a guideline that my daughters are never allowed to be alone with one of their uncles. He is 42 and has never had a girlfriend...we have caught him leering at our daughter so we want to make sure if we go he never ever gets time alone with her...DD is only 5!!
Also want to make sure my husbands parents don't get our girls if we go. They are nice people but just don't agree on some of the methods they used to raise hubby.
For example....he nearly failed High School but decided in his last few years that he wanted to become an automotive engineer so he pulled his stuff together began pulling A and B grades and taking community college courses during the summer. He really pulled himself together and got A and high B grades for the rest of HS. Keep in mind his parents let him know they were disappointed with his previous bad grades but never really encouraged him that much. Even with his previous bad grades he managed to get into one of the best engineering schools in the US because the school was amazed at how much he changed his grades and improved himself...they gave him a chance.
Then once he is in college and getting great grades pretty much all A grades except for some filler courses like philosophy, art history etc which he got B grades in. Then his mom basically told him that a B was unexceptable that he was a total loser and worse then his F up brother because he got a few B+ at a school that requires you take 20 or more credit hours a semester. Told him he should just drop out if he is going to pull any B grades. Also told him to dump me because I would ruin his grades and life!
Jen
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We are working on one right now. We just took out new life insurance policies and figured it's time.
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This is such an important thing to have. We are in the process of updating what we had originally put in ours. THe best advise I recieved about a will was that you cannot worry about offending anyone if you are gone and that this will be the last decision made for my children, so everything needs to be accounted for and thought about.
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No, we have been talking about it for 22 years, and haven't yet done one!!! I keep hoping the kids will grow up and then it will be easier. I got one grown up now, but I know it will be a long time since the youngest is 4!!! Yes, we NEED to do this!
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I think its very important--especially if you have kids. Dh and I are about to do ours. When he was in the Army I remember getting that information too. It was heartbreaking but I knew it was something I had to deal with. He explained everything to me and even what music he wanted played "just in case". It was so hard to think about but its something that is a real possibility and something that needs to be taken care of.
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No, I too see it as very important but we don't have the funds for the paper work and leagle fees