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Has anyone ever felt like giving up on your relationship with your sister? My sister and I have never been very close. Even though our families live just thirty minutes apart, we hardly ever get together. I love my niece and nephew and am interested in them, but my sister doesn't care and isn't at all interested in my children. She has always been very insecure and jealous and it is very hard for her to care about others or to be happy for them, especially when they are succesful at something. I have finally decided to quit trying so hard and wait for her to take the initiative if she wants to see my family or get together. Have any of you had a difficult relationship with your sister? Please share.
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My sister and I do not have much of a relationship. I send birthday and Christmas presents and she sends them also. We don't talk and I haven't seen her in years. We live a loooong way apart and just have absolutley nothing in common except having the same parents.
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i have that probelem with my sis-in-law (my hubby's sis). I have tried everything humanly possible to try to have a realationship with her. We used to invite them over, but stopped b/c we never got invited over there and when they did come over they always left after a short while b/c they were bored. I used to invite her when i had jewelry parties but she told me not to waste a stamp anymore. Hey, I was just trying to be nice. If it weren't for our wedding, she would have never met her husband. They never call us and did not come to our kids' birthday this year. He has a kid from a previous relationship, but they do not have kids together yet. When they do I want to be part of their life, b/c that is the kind of family I was raised in, but part of me wants to not show up at their birthdays just b/c they did the same to us. It doesn't seem to bother my hubby, but he wasn't really close to his family like I am with mine. I am sorry for you b/c it is your sis and not sis in law. Have you told her how you feel? Sometimes it is just impossible!
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I have two older sisters. I've cut off all relations with my eldest sister.
When I was a teenager her first husband would 'hit on' me all the time. He practically raped me while driving me home one day. He finally confessed to her what he had been doing for years and she never indicated she cared about my welfare. She was just P.O.'ed that her husband was trying to cheat on her. She ended up divorcing him - for completely different reasons, BTW.
This same sister later remarried and her second husband physically attacked me out of anger. He is very controlling and would frequently get my sister so drunk at family parties she would pass out. He would then go about making sure he erased from my sister's life anyone who he didn't approve of - including many of her family members. He attacked me because he objected to me being nice to one of his dogs. My sister is still married to him.
While I'm very concerned about my sister's well-being, I can't help her. She consistently choses her scummy husbands over blood family. That is entirely her choice but I refuse to be subjected to it anymore.
This is the same sister who refused to acknowledge that I even existed at the funerals of both our parents (they died separately, a few years apart). I offered my condolences to her because, after all she had lost her mom or dad, too. She still refused to speak to me. I don't need that in my life.
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Yes, with my SIL and really we get together for just family events but I just don't want to do much with her. She is moody and depresive and I don't need that.
I am greatful for my relationship that I have with my sister and was hoping for the same with a SIL
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Unfortunately, my sister has always struggled with insecurity and jealousy, and that is what has kept us and our families from being close.