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My family donated a case of water to my DD's school fun fair. It was requested a case of pop, water, monetary, etc. We also sent in a donation to help make gift baskets for a raffle they had. I try to always send in something, especially when they are raising money for something.
My DD, who is in 2nd grade came home and told me so and so's mom sent in 20 cases of pop! The janitor helped her take them all inside! And so and so brought this and this and this for the gift baskets.....
So how do I make her feel good about what we give? More than once this has happened, where someone gives MORE and I want her to feel that when we give we should feel good about it.
I have told her every little bit helps, and it was so nice of so and so's parents to send in so much. I sent what was asked, I know it is great some people have the money or other resources I did not at that time to send more. But I want her to see giving in any amount is a nice gesture. I feel like she thinks she did not help as much. I volunteer at her school, I helped in other ways during the year, etc. but all at once to give that much, no not this time I did not.
I feel like she doesn't get it, and I know she is only 8. But I have the feeling she felt bad for not giving more. Does that make sense?
Answer:
It is hard for them to see that every little bit helps. Maybe one day, she will understand.