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The boys are in swimming lessons in the evenings and there is a wading pool for little ones to swim while the lessons are going on. I took Wyndser for the first time this evening and she was so excited to be going.
We get there and the boys go to their area of the pool for their lessons while Wyndser and I head to the wading area. This other mother and little girl were a few steps ahead of us. We get in there and Wyndser steps in the pool, walks over to this other little girl, and asks if she would like to play. Now, Wyndser will be 3 in July and this other little girl is already 3. The girl, River, plays with Wyndser for a little while, they just walk on their hands around the pool with their legs floating behind them. Wyndser was laughing and they seemed to be doing fine. I watched the entire time, but River's mother was on the phone with at least 3 different people and seemingly not paying attention. All of a sudden, River turns to Wyndser and splashes her in the face. Wyndser didn't react, just smiled and kept going. She does, after all, have 2 brothers who have "broken her in", so she wasn't phased. At first.
River proceded to do it several more times, each time getting a meaner face and harder splash. I wanted to see what Wyndser was going to do and how she would handle it since she is about to go to pre-k in August. Finally, Wyndser had enough. River walked across the pool to Wyndser while she was playing quietly by herself and splashed her again. Wyndser said in a firm but calm tone, "Don't splash me again." I cheered mentally for her. She got out of the pool and came to me and I told her that she handled it very well when the other girl was being mean to her. She hugged me and got back in.
River got out of the pool and stomped and whined over to her mother (who was still on the phone). Mom told her that she still had time to swim and to go and keep playing nicely. WTH?!?! Anyway, River goes back to the pool, Wyndser glides over to her and says, "Would you like to play with me?" in her sweet little voice, and River says, "Go away. I don't want to play with you. You are UGLY."
I gave an immediate and clearly audible gasp and with that mom said, "River, come out of the pool and sit by me for 2 minutes for being mean."
I was stunned!! I was pi$$ed!! I was ready to wash her mouth out with soap. I looked at Wyndser and told her that she could keep playing and that the boys were almost finished. River sat out for maybe 1 minute then mom let her back in the pool. She never said anything to me about it at all. I know that kids can say things that we would never expect them to say, so I think that the least she could've done was turn and say, "I'm soooo sorry she said that." I would have had it been MY kid!
Anyway, I'm so relieved that Wyndser doesn't know what ugly means (I don't think she does) so that it wouldn't knock her self-esteem. She is so fragile and tends to be pretty shy, so I was extremely proud of her for going to another child in the first place. Then for THAT to happen. My blood is still boiling over it. I have never been in a situation like this, so I didn't know what to say, but I know I wanted to let that mother (who is a dentist married to a teacher I work with) know that her daughter was a little spoiled brat.
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Parents like that gripe me to no end. I'm glad Wyndser stuck up for herself & let the rest roll off her back.
We had some friends over this past weekend & without fail, every meal I made or dessert I served, I heard, "ewwww, I don't like that. Mooooom, make me something else to eat" out of the visiting kids mouths. And she did!!! WTH? If my kids were ever that ungrateful, they would do it a second time, I promise you that! First as a guest & second, as someone offering them something.
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WOW thats bad! Do you think the little girl was just trying to get attention from her mom even negative because the mom was on the phone, basicaly ingnoring her dd?
No matter that was mean and wrong! I would never allow my child to speak to anyone that way. Poor Windsor and she is such a pretty little girl. WOW I just can't beleive it. I give you kudos for not going off!
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You know, tell Wydser to go get her pretty boots on & go kick that little girl's hiney!
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Originally Posted by bonna9182
You know, tell Wydser to go get her pretty boots on & go kick that little girl's hiney!
I should! You're too funny!!
Thanks, ladies. I really needed to purge that from my system. It hurt me for her. She is such a sensitive and sweet little thing that I hated seeing/hearing that little turd being mean to her. If she is there tomorrow, I will step in if things start to turn like they did tonight. There is no reason why my child (or any ) should be treated like that.
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That's so rude and who is on their phone, not paying attention to their 3 year old in the pool? Seriously? I'm glad that you and Wyndser handled it the way you did. You are teaching her well, and she knows that she is loved, no matter what any other kid says.
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Originally Posted by vioburn
That's so rude and who is on their phone, not paying attention to their 3 year old in the pool? Seriously?
I know!!! I realize that it was a wading pool, but accidents do happen. You'd think she'd have her eyes on her no matter what. And if she did.....and STILL didn't say anything about her daughter being hateful....well, that is just terrible, too.
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I'm glad that you and Wyndser handled it the way you did. You are teaching her well, and she knows that she is loved, no matter what any other kid says.
Thank you.
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Well, obviously you are doing a wonderful job teaching Wyndser how to act! She handled that situation beautifully! I'm so sorry she even had to go through that at her age.
You're a better woman than me, I would have stepped in at the second splash, with an "Excuse me, that's not very nice" while looking at her MOTHER. I can't stand parents like that around water, it terrifies me. How can you not know you're supposed to watch your kids at all times near water? No matter what the depth??!!
Well, again, good for Wyndser, she handled herself like a little lady! Colin would be HAPPY to defend her anyday (he's still harboring a little crush I think )
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Oh my...at the age of three??? Girls are saying "UGLY" to one another? That is so sad.
You have so much self control than I would have had. I would have told the little girl that ugliness comes in the form of mean words and that everyone is beautiful (then stuck my tongue out at her~!~~ just kidding)
I'm so sorry she said that but am very thankful dd didn't get offended. She is by far a very beautiful little girl.....those words definitely would have bounced right off of her
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First of all WAY TO GO WYNDSER!!! she acted very Grownup!!! and mom too you sounded like you handed that very nicely!!! The other mom needed to get a clue!!!