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I know this should go in the preschooler section, but I need it to get more people to look at it. Lexi who will be 3 in Aug is having some issues. She has been incredibly moody lately, one minute she is up the next she is down. She says she doesn't feel better and I ask her what's the matter and she just starts bawling. The past 2 nights she has made herself throw up. She falls asleep and then wakes up and starts freaking out and then like hyperventilating like and then blah all over our bed.
She started acting this way when her and another little girl got into a little spat at daycare. The other girl pushed Lexi into the couch and gave her 2 black eyes. Not major but you could still tell. The other mother says it's just girls being girls.
I need help!!!!
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That definitely sounds scarry. For a mommy
Maybe out of no where and over breakfast or something, you could ask her casually, "I heard you crying last night, did you have a bad dream". Make it casual and see what she says. I find my boys are most responsive to hard questions when it's during an activity: puzzles, plah doh, painting or eating!
Has she watched anything on TV lately that may have triggered this response? One night my boys had just finished some military thing (bad daddy) and Zach woke up several times that night crying saying he was being chased by "bammers" (aka guns). Yah, I know...bad. So maybe this reaction was triggered by something she saw, and not necessarily experienced.
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No Clue!! but has anyhting else happened at Daycare?? maybe you can talk to the Teacher??
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It sounds like there could be so bullying going on at daycare. Maybe it's not the first time that the other little girl has pushed her/hurt her. Maybe she's being mean to Lexi too and Lexi is just very sensitive to it. I'd start by talking to Lexi and see if she can put into words if anything has been going on at daycare. I know she's young though so maybe she can't articulate it. Also, ask the teachers to observe how the two girls interact.
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I would just mention it to her doctor. She may have some anxiety issues--if she is making herself literally sick about stuff at school, it needs to be addressed. If she is hyperventalating, she may be having panic attacks.
She may just not have the skills to deal with things that are going on at school yet--if she is only 3.
My guess is that you will want to pursue this though--there are resources out there that work with kids to help find "triggers" to situations like these, how to deal with them, etc.
To me it doesn't just sound like kids being kids, trust your mommy intuition.
I have a son with severe anxiety--and he was MISERABLE (and so were we because of it) and we have learned a ton about how to deal with it. In fact, he had issues today with it being the last day of school and long story short missed the bus (all because a kid doesn't like him anymore)--he is anxious about people not liking him (even though they do) and it being the last day of school. It's hard to see little kids so stressed out!
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Bump!
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I don't think it is kids being kids either. The other kid is being a bully. Try to give her some extra one on one time and maybe she will open up to you.
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I'm sorry, but a little girl giving another little girl black eyes is WAY over the line of kids being kids! And where the heck is the daycare provider that she can't get to the situation before 2 black eyes are created?!?! No! I would definitely be mad. I think Lexi is terrified of being hurt again in an environment where she has no control over her own safety. You need to get this resolved quickly! Poor Lexi.
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I would agree with the anxiety. If she doesn't improve over time, take her to the doctor. I was in denial for years over our dd's anxiety issues,and i wished i would have acted sooner!
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Thats tough for a little girl to handle. Its hard to talk to a 3 yr old. Id speak to her teacher about what happened and how it has effected your child. Obviously your daughter is upset about it. Take care of things now before it really effects her in school, life - kids will take their experiences into adulthood. If her mood doesnt get better you may want to take her to a doctor.
And about the mother saying girls will be girls?? Ive never been in a physical fight but Id give that mother a black eye and say ooops...girls will be girls. That would just piss me off if something like that happened to my child while at daycare/preschool/school.